Go address the issues with them

Why do  we feel the need to go tell other people the issues we have with someone instead of going to that person to address such issues? What do we hope to be the end result; just venting or settling the differences?

Some other times people don't come talking because they hope for reconciliation. We learnt the hard way.

There's this highly placed couple my family was close to. Somehow because of our closeness some persons came telling hubby and i their grievances about them. We in turn went back to the couple to tell them what we were told in a bid to reconcile them. Well, let's just say they weren't receptive of our efforts, good intentions and all. You understand how painful it is to sit back  and watch people you love make mistakes and to hear several persons talk about them in bad light and the people in question justifying their actions?

Summary of it all; we became the enemy. Hubby and i didn't give room for gossips so when people told us anything or anyway the couple hurt them, we tried appeasing or solving it. 

We distanced ourselves from the couple after several efforts as frictions started coming into the relationship.

However, over time we realized these persons weren't actually talking for reconciliation as we started seeing them uploading the couple on their status with beautiful write-ups during their anniversary, birthday and so on.

Humans will shock you!

So right now, before you come telling hubby and i about anyone, if we should listen, it's on the basis that you seek reconciliation.

Beware of those who come talking to you about others oh, before you get into the middle of a fight that isn't yours to begin with, don't be quick to take sides  and always judge the motives of people when they come  to you.

Cheers!