PARENTAL CONTROL!

A friend reached out to be in tears and you could tell that every life and willpower in her was gone.

Why do parents like to determine ones life's choices?

 Why, why why?

They're either living vicariously through their kids, forcing them into professions they don't want to venture into or enjoy, living a certain lifestyle and all

Or they view their kids as their retirement ticket. Everything their child works for, they want to claim.

Either ways, it's nothing short of them controlling the life of their kids, wanting to influence their every decision to suit the parent, manipulating them to get their desired, selfish results.

The painful part is these things damage the lives of the kids.

Changing the trajectory of their lives

Robbing them of joy and fulfilment in what they do,

Loosing out in certain relationships that would've been a lifeline for them.

I remember the story of the lady who wanted going into basketball but the parents refused and today all her friends who signed up are living the dream.

How about choosing someone's life partner?

They want someone that can dance to their tune. Not someone they can have an independent healthy relationship with.

Some even want to influence the number of kids you their children will have

Where their children will work and lots more.

By the time these parents die, the kids are completely clueless as to what or how they've been living their lives: wasted years. 

That's when they start to try discovering themselves. For those who still have the willpower.

Let your children grow, let them fly.

That you birth them doesn't mean you own and should control their lives.

You duty as a parent is to help nuture your child into the maturity and reality and who he has been wired to be and not what you choose.