The Good Life

Karen has always been the 'go to' person. Always sticking her neck out for people. So it was nothing strange when Nicholas came begging for a connect to a job as he has been out of one for a pretty long time, his family was suffering and just somehow, he remembered his long time friend Karen could hook him up with jobs. Karen was big time into gaining contracts to do supplies, from household to office equipments. Being the kind hearted soul she was and upon their long time relationship Karen was quick to go all out in helping Nicholas. She took him under her wings, began introducing him to her contacts, allowed him tag along whenever she had a job to do, would let him use her office space in his little hustles, on and on they went. One day, Karen got a job of millions. After giving it much thought and looking upon the state of her friend and his family, Karen directed the job to Nicholas. This was one of her big contracts she'd been hoping to clinch for the year...

Ohhhhhhhhh peaceful night! Beautiful night! With the night comes peace, calmness, solitude and more. As a parent, after having a day of refereeing, screaming and exhaustion, the minute the kids fall asleep is like a golden moment of sanity. Most times after successfully putting the kids to bed, the relative peace and quiet becomes a strong allure, such that majority of the time I choose this quiet time over sleep. Knowing fully well that I have very few hours to sleep, I still choose my quiet time. For a good part of these alone times, I get carried away only to realize that I've got about an hour or two to sleep before waking up to prepare breakfast, lunch and the kids for the new day. After getting them sorted and concluding with the school run, it's almost like I'm a walking zombie as all the sleep I'd have missed would come rushing back in strong demands.  Sleep deprivation or not, I'm already looking forward to my peaceful alone time. That's the...

'I'm disappointed in you'  Jenny exclaimed the minute Kate answered to the call.  'Kate, it's been almost two months and you can't even call me. You just forgot me. Na wah ohhhhh' So many persons have used the phrase above when addressing issues. However, most fail to realize that a good communication is a two way street where one must engage in talking, listening, repeating/engaging emotions. We were taught to conceal our feelings and emotions. Some person's like Jenny, do not realize the fact that nobody owes them anything and life doesn't revolve around them. If a person doesn't call, you can call that's that simple.  Learn to love back Learn to live every moment to it's fullest Appreciate everyone who really is always there for you  It's no time for emotional blackmail. Everybody is going through something Everybody is trying their best to be strong and pull through  If you must call someone today, be the reason they...

I was appalled when hubby said he wanted just one child. The Naija indoctrination in me came flying out in strong protest.  Such a strange idea wasn't even subject to discussion to begin with so why stress myself to even engage hubby in any form of debate or argument? One child! For what? A boy would need a sister and vice-versa. Neither of us were only kids, so this oyibo mindset won't bear fruit in my home. Don't you know a child needs a sibling(s)? The more the merrier. Our parents of old had close to 10 children if not even more. Our kids therefore have no reason for being alone, so society taught us.  So I engaged every arsenal known to me. Of course hubby didn't stand a chance and overtime caved in to my demand for another child.  My people, that's how baby no2 landed and in God's graciousness we were blessed with a boy and a girl. In the bid to have a play mate for baby 1, supreme mother baby 2 came with power. She's the one giving everyon...

In today's world, kids are super smart and very quick to learn. I'm guessing one of the contributing factor is the method of teaching. Back in the days, you had slates and pencils, then we moved to having white boards and markers. It was all writing, craming with crude ways of doing calculations. Gradually, tv became introduced, right now, almost every child has a kiddie's tablet with fun children videos to help them remember and sing along. Games have been incorporated as teaching method for the kids. Teachers have become very creative to engage the minds of children as against the hard ways of yesterday. You go to school and find kids engaged in painting, wrestling, obstacle climbing, rubics, dancing, skill acquisition... The goal has shifted today from straight jacket pre-programmed teachings to stimulating the minds and tapping into the brain of kids to discover what they love and can excel in doing. This way, the kids learn faster and rarely forget. I was w...

I watched hubby as he gritted his teeth when he felt the prick of the needle. All I could say was sorry but I was almost tempted to say 'I told you so'. Hubby had been so busy lately and barely rested. Returned home one day and was sounding funny. I persuaded him to go visit the pharmacy and some drugs were prescribed to him. Two days later hubby's jetting out of the house when I ask him to take his medicine. He squeezes his face and tells me 'Babe I'm late. I'll take it when I get back'. I became his reminder for two days and he always found a reason to avoid taking his drugs. Third day he was on the bed quivering and subsequently landed in the hospital. This scenario is a common occurrence to many. You fall ill, drugs are prescribed to you. After the first or second dose, you start feeling like superman and refuse to complete your medication. This has been the root cause of people's illness growing worse, suffer irreversible health damages ...

Nothing is accomplished without a person setting goals, so no matter what the idea is, goals would definitely help in actualizing them. Sometimes our ideas might seem so big and overwhelming, sometimes we might be at a loss on how to accomplish the idea but the most important thing is to begin, no matter how small. Secondly, after achieving your set goals, never ever settle. Be intentional about not resting on your what you've accomplished, there's always more. Haven't you seen old persons say ' Ahhhhhhh, I used to be this this and this, if you knew me in those days, I used to do this this and that'. They go about talking about their yesterday's with so much glint in their eyes and end it with, 'i wish I didn't stop. I would've been in so so so and so place today'. Lastly, do all you need to do, do your best as well and never accept impossibility as an option. There must always be a way out.  Every dream can be brought to reality. Nev...