The Good Life

 Woke up to see the approval of a 14-day paternity leave and it gladdened my heart. Might look so simple but to those parents who just had a baby and is trying to adjust to the new family status this is a mighty good news. I recall hubby sleeping off while driving several times as occasioned by the sleep deprivation suffered from being awake for most part of the night to tend to our babies those first three months of their lives. He'd do all the running around to get what would be needing at home and then zoom off to work, to return and join in nursing the babies. The fact that hubby is such a crazy workaholic didn't even help. Under the sun or in the rain, public holiday or sit-at-home, he'd always find a way to go to the office. Now that the Almighty has made this provision, hmmmmm I'm sipping hot tea and making some considerations. I know I said we were done oh but errrrrrmmmmm is anybody thinking what I'm thinking? Three more kids don't seem like...

Baby stop stop stop!!!  Hubby immediately slammed the brakes given to how loud I screamed as though my life depended on it. 'What is it, are you okay?' he asked 'Ok? Didn't you see that woman carrying abacha? Abeg turn sharp sharp before she goes far or better still just run and meet her' I said I was in my second trimester and abacha was the craving for the day. It didn't matter if we had to stop on a very busy highway or cross seven mountains. The baby wanted abacha and hubby was duty bound to get it. I always prided myself as a person who was careful of what and where I ate until pregnancy happened and my Baby girl status flew out the window   One faithful day after making our purchases, I discovered a restaurant in the market, to hubby's horror My joy could only be best described like that of the Israelites when manna rained from heaven To say I began frequenting the restaurant won't quite cut it. I practically went there everyday to eat ...

'You don't mean it! So what story will you have to tell when women are talking about their experience?' My friend's mother asked, giving me a very weird look. I had gone to pay a visit to a friend who just gave birth and as expected some of our gists centred on her birth process and it's accompanying drama. Of course I had a good laugh while thanking God mother and child were fine. Pregnancy had always been a mind-disturbing matter for me from childhood I loved kids but have never looked forward to the process of their delivery with respect to labour and everything in between. I just didn't like or have the heart to try it. I was so happy upon meeting hubby and he was of the same opinion so we argreed on elective CS even before the kids showed up Sharing my CS story with my friend got her mum riled up and she went into a long charge of being 'the typical Hebrew woman', her perceived merits of going through labour and on she went to share her ...

Born on an isolated farm, out of wedlock to parents who sepetated after her birth She was immediately left in the care of her maternal grandmother, sexually abused at 9, ran away from home at 13, got pregnant at 14, became a Beauty Queen at 17, abused drugs in her 20s Oprah Winfrey became the first black American woman on National T.V in America, one of the wealthiest women in America today and the highest paid entertainer in the world. Colonel Sanders was nothing but a retiree with a chicken recipe. He slept and drove around in his car, knocking on every door possible just to sell his recipe. He was rejected 1009 times until one person said yes and that birthed the million dollar empire KFC   How about Thomas Edison? He failed 10000 in his quest to invent the light bulb. Imagine what our world would be like if he had called it quits. How long have you been trying to break even? How hard have you tried? Spent all your resources and time only to have everything go down t...

I'm writing from a place of deep pains because it seems I've lost a very dear friend in this age and time when genuine friendship is hard to find It had always been such a true, supportive and love filled relationship My friend was always there for me anytime I called Raising me up whenever I was down Never cared about my race, weight or financial status To think I've known her for so many years Our bond was so strong I named my friend Faithfulness because that was the best way to describe who she was Hubby got so jealous and tried several times to severe our relationship but we bounced back even stronger each time He didn't understand that what we shared was special He couldn't understand why out of everyone I chose her My friend was a perfect fit for me If I were to count people I could rely on I would count my her twice Many friends had come and gone but this one stood the test of time You see, we just happened upon each other in no particularly drama...

' I don suffer no be small Upon say I get sense Poverty no good at all oh Na him make I join this business'... I sang along Nkem Owoh in my mind as I passionately devoured the feast in front of me See ehhh my people this life is sweet!!! That faithful Saturday in Bayelsa State, after a gruesome week of been battered with endless cramming of sections and Latin Maxims, as well as lectures and countless assignments, my friend and I decided to give ourselves a treat by going to swim for  a few hours to unwind from Law School palava It would be my first time swimming so we headed to the market, got me a swimsuit and we were good to go. My friend was tired. This was the third hotel we were going to and the poolside was used as the reception venue so automatically our swimming for that day was threatened to end before it even started.  However on our way back to school I succeeded in convincing him to give it one more trial and that's how we found ourselves in this Gra...

Hubby slowed down and proceeded to park upon request by the road safety officer We were used to this routine as their check point was positioned close to our place of residence Officer: Sir your driver's licence Hubby presented it Officer: Your papers,  Come down where's your fire extinguisher, C-caution, jack.... It was obvious the officer was becoming frustrated by the minute as hubby was a strong believer in keeping everything with relations to the car up to date. Officer: Ehen oga your spare tyre is under inflated  Hubby: Really, didn't notice, I'd just pump it down the road then Obviously not the reply he was expecting as the usual practice would be parting with some currencies to placate him. The officer became incensed and gradually it metamorphosised into threats  Officer: I will book you and there's nothing you can do about it Hubby: Alright, just show me where it's stated that I can be booked for having an under inflated spare tyre Officer:...