The Good Life

You see some of these Uncles, evil people that will cannot give somebody something. Just small oh, they cannot and they'll be calling somebody ' Princess, Fine girl' bla bla bla. Oya let me start from the beginning of this my anger. You see Uncle Felix? Everytime he will come to our house and be shouting, calling my name 'Chiiioooommmaaaa, come and buy this one for me, come and buy that one for me'  There's no single day Uncle Felix will not send me. Even that other day that his fiance was coming and he was inside the house with Aunty Amaka it's me that helped Aunty to follow the backyard of our compound. Why am I angry? After going everywhere on so many errands for Uncle Felix, he now told that he'll buy me icecream. You need to see the speed with which I did everything for him today. Only for Uncle Felix to return and he was with one girl. Next thing I know, they sat outside the compound and were licking the icecream🍦 that was supposed to ...

Growing up until now, my Dad has always been my biggest support system, my cheerleader, instructor, guidian and role model. I remember an instance when he was going over my take home assignment with me and picked interest in helping me improve my handwriting as what I had was barely visible. Everyday he'd sit with me while guiding my hands to write. In no time, my writing has tremendously improved that my teachers in school began giving me commendation. Same thing applied with my spoken English as well as general life decisions. The role of father's in the lives of children, cannot be overemphasized.  Fatherless children are  twice as likely to drop out of high school than children with both parents at home  (U.S. Census Bureau, 2021). The fatherless are also 40 percent more likely to repeat a class and 70 percent more likely to drop out of school (Ibid). 15 Feb 2022.  Fathers are the bedrock for growth, development and stability of the children and homes...

The audacity with which some persons act like partners or better still, shareholders in a marriage is laughable. So there I was in the sitting room with our daughter watching a movie when I heard hubby call out 'Baby,Baby'! Before I could get up from the couch, little madam was ahead of me, running to the room. We made it to the room just as hubby was calling out again and responded 'Yes'? Unanimously. Ahhhhhhhhhh it was at this point I understood clearly why the little madam sped off when hubby called at first. Hubby called again in a bid to say something else and yet again, we both responded 'Yes'! Immediately the little madam turned to me and said 'No, I'm Daddy's Baby girl' I didn't know that I was sharing the man I paid full groom price for, with another lady. Right now our daughter has legitimately taken over the name 'Baby'. Kids are something else 🤣🤣🤣 Ever had such experience?

Been a long time since hubby was home due to a research trip.  We were very eager to jump on each other but equally very very very exhausted. We had a stressful day to blame for it.  So we settled for cuddling, catching up on our amebor and the likes. This got me thinking; how do couples who are trying to conceive feel during sex and things around it? First you're dealing with the emotions and most times the desperation of wanting a baby so bad. Then you're all tied up in knots with medications and calculations, to find the right time to make love with your partner. How then do you initiate or find making love enjoyable when your mind is working 24/7 with thoughts of 'Will this time be the one?' I couldn't imagine being in that position of trying to have a baby, staying happy, maintaining your sanity, evading prying eyes and questions, ohhhhh let's not forget some people's insensitive to the plight of others. My heart just bled. I felt a glimpse ...

Our Primary four Aunty always had an excuse for why her daughter scarcely joined us for rehearsals. It was the end of year celebration in our school. The biggest celebration our school held annually, so everyone always took rehearsals and every instructions given very seriously. Which is exactly why we didn't understand Aunty Primary 3 kept making the excuses for her daughter. For the rest of us who always came out for the two hours daily rehearsals after school, it looked like so much suffering, pains and loads of sacrifices. The D-Day finally came and we all filed out looking all smart in our white shirts, khaki shorts, white socks and sneakers. Aunty primary 3 put her daughter right at the front even after she missed 90% of the rehearsals, robbing those of us who practiced our legitimate spot. The presentations started and for almost every step of the moves, Aunty primary 3's daughter flopped disgracefully. Great results/achievements do not come by who you know o...

So I needed referees for something I was applying for. After giving it some thought, I remembered a classmate who could help me and reached out. This is someone who we speak at least once in awhile. So it wasn't strange reaching out. After presenting my case to him, he welcomed me cheerfully, asked what I needed it for. Of course I filled him in on every detail. He promised to help and asked I give him awhile to get back to me as he was working. Till date, I'm still waiting for him to get back to me as that was the last time I heard from him. It's surprising how people behave. Some persons disguise as friends but deep down are unhappy when something good comes to you. Where they can render help, they pretend they can't or dodge away from doing so. An Aunt once refered my hubby to a church for prayers, instead of simply introducing him to one of her friends whom he needed a letter of introduction from. Somehow, I was blessed to get what I was pursuing without...

There's been so much emphasis on mental health yet alot of people still ignore it for reasons best known to them. Ever been in a work environment that was suffocating or better still, toxic? Read a Banker lady's story, where her Boss was a mighty definition of everything toxic. Been heavily pregnant and due any minute, her Boss kept her working full time up until she went into labour. She went straight to the hospital from the office and birthed her baby. She missed work the following day of course with genuine reasons but her Boss issued her a query for her absence as she didn't give a formal notice. How about the Boss whose every word was criticism, harassment and more of it's kind. There was nothing his staffs did that ever was right. A friend of mine worked under such and came home every other day with a hurting story or in tears. Why subject yourself to such continuous torture?  Ohhhhhhh, there's no job in Nigeria you know, This is my only source of...