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NO SHORTCUTS!!!

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I remember growing to my Dad telling me severally that there was nothing like shortcuts. Once we were watching a TV program where a man won several stuffs from the show, Dad laughed and told me life wasn't such a fairy tale, to get what you want, you ought to work for it. I've come to hear so many stories of very young men and women going through every imaginable means just to 'keep up with the Joneses'. From crazy diabolical means with demands for sacrifices that would leave you speechless, to illegitimate and fraudulent activities Then the ladies have normalized being escorts to anyone and anything so long as they're paid. The story of a lady comes to mind. She wanted to keep up, so she decided to be an escort. A friend introduced her to a wealthy billionaire who said part of what he loved most was a little wound being licked. She accepted and it became a norm. He financed every lifestyle she wanted and all was well until she decided to stop. Overnight...

GRATITUDE!

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This rant ehhhhhh Somebody will say 'Chi, why flogging this matter again?' And I say 'Why won't I?' In this tough economy, hubby and I decided to forgo something's and sent the money designated for them to somebody to help meet their needs. It's been two days and were yet to get a simple 'THANK YOU'. Some will say 'Ehhhhhh you're feeling bad because you had expectations when you were giving'. Of course I should have an expectation of gratitude/appreciation from someone I'm rendering help to. Gratitude never goes out of style It's a powerful tool that unlocks doors and even greater doors when properly applied. Even school kids are taught that there are magic words, ranging from please, sorry and down to thank you how much more adults. The thing is if a person has a mindset of entitlement, they'd never see your givings as a sacrifice. They believe they've earned it and so, ought to have it. This key is a very imp...

DIY

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You know, watching all these 'DIY' videos from Nigeria, it just looked like too much stressing over nothing, when I could easily walk down my street and there was somebody to fix anything I wanted within reasonable rates. Last night, I made my hair myself for the first time, with the help of hubby. When I called him to help me, the man went into fits of laughter and said there's nothing I won't turn him into. This is however so true. If you want to save money, you literally become the 'JACK OF ALL TRADE'. The zipper of my son's winter jacket got spoilt and finding where to fix it was souch stress, and then the price! We simply went and got him a new jacket. End of wahala! In this abroad, you're everything to yourself oh Mechanic, engineer, electrician, cobbler, painter, barber, tailor... My Dear, all those DIY videos are now the real lifesavers. Somebody will be so serious watching videos to fix one thing or the other It's so funny that w...

Fault Finders Association

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I was opportuned to head a group and created and got things rolling with cool ideas Then I began hearing side talks from some persons Very bad and hateful For every idea, they had something to say I finally got fed up and left the group leadership to them. Zero ideas Zero input Within a month, the group packed up. There are some set of persons who all they know how to do is criticize criticize and criticize Not as per positive criticism, they just derive joy in fighting or opposing everything and anything. They are good oppositionist but whenever they're asked, they have nothing to contribute. Very quick to throw words and blames Very quick to find loopholes in ideas Very quick to point out the flaws and negatives And you want to progress? If you confront them they'd tell you nothing survives without criticism 🤨. My Dear, start today to change your ways Let your voice be that of hope and goodness not destruction and death.

TAKE A STEP BACK!

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If men were God! The beautiful thing about God is that he's loving, kind and merciful and he sees things we don't. In our pursuit to relocate we saw different shades of people who were really enemies in the clothes of friendship. Two tried duping us with fake jobs Another got us into selling some of our properties for peanuts in the guise of meeting a deadline for payment without knowing he was simply unhappy towards us. Somehow, inspite of our best efforts, everything we did to relocate to the country were these people were all failed. We decided to try for another European country and everything clicked without any hitch. It was indeed a miracle. We finally relocated and then these friends started spreading crazy and surprising rumours about us. How were we to know what God was delivering us from? Sometimes you may be feeling bad that things are not going as planned, you want to join 'friends' to do AB and C, without knowing that those failures are blessin...

ARE YOU READY?

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Nothing in life 'JUST' happens Things don't just fall on your laps like magic There's that point when you're chasing something and you tell yourself 'i'm getting this thing or nothing'. Recently a friend chatted me up asking about how I was able to achieve a particular goal and in the middle of his statement he said 'i'd like to be informed so that I'd know if I should go ahead or just keep my money or if in the next three to five months I'd have gotten it'. Of course it was a funny thing to hear because any radical change you want must be backed up with radical decisions. When my family achieved that feat, we didn't think of the amount(not because we had in abundance) but our minds were made up and there was no room for alternatives. Esther said in the Bible 'if I perish, I perish' ! What's the motivation backing up your decisions? If you still have alternatives, then you're not yet ready to make drast...

HEELLLPPPP!

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See ehhh, in this life, it's good to maintain your lane oh Follow the road wey you sabi Do wetin you sabi Sometimes this copy copy dey land person for portor potor. Why this rant? As I'm speaking to you my people, I'm in the toilet for the 100th time this evening. I went to work with my beloved jollof rice for lunch. Only for office to declare pizza day Everyone left their lunch and bounced on the pizza management bought See everyone munching, laughing and hosting. That's how your girl decided not to fall hand oh for this abroad I say let me represent. I matched to the table where it was displayed, took my piece and joined other. Ahhhhhhhh, now I know why the Bible said 'Jesus wept' because the thing I was chewing, my mouth was not understanding it at alllllllll. Well, a few hours later, I have become a permanent tenant in the toilet. Na who send me?😭😭😭😭

PEOPLE ARE CAUSING THE FALL!

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*People Are Causing the Naira to Fall???!!!* Someone asserted a few years ago that once a person joins APC, he or she swaps his or her brain cells and stops thinking. However, Reuben Abati pushed it further, stating that being in government makes one lose their normal sense of reasoning.  initially I brushed it off as an excuse for the failure of those in governance, but on second thoughts, it appears that once people are appointed they drop their brain cells at a grave and Bury it completely before assuming office. this is Confounded on the tweet by Bayo Onanuga, an appointee of the Tinubu administration who is claiming that Binance, Kucoin and other crypto platforms are the ones fixing the price of the Naira and that is responsible for the declining fx, he tried effortlessly to convince anyone reading his tweet that there are speculators and these are the reasons for the falling Naira, and absolves the government of any wrongdoing. in all their thinking, no one is tal...

WHAT'S GOING ON?

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Yesterday, it was the video of a lady who visited the bank with pant in the name of jean to carryout whatever transaction that brought here. I was wowed! Today, another video of a lady with clear transparent net as top and mini jean pant to cover her bum. Some young men were harassing her by pouring water on her and asking her to go change her outfit. I never will support a person being harassed and or assaulted however I just want to know what's going on? Is this the new trend? We all wanna walk around naked? The musician you want to copy her dressing has a car or wears such outfit for stage performance. You wear yours and walk down the road, bust stops, public places, market places and all. The right goes both ways Yes you have a right to wear what you choose but others also have a right not to be harassed by your unclad body parts because you've chosen to be naked. Today, if you voice out in correcting such all you'd hear is 'its my right' It is said ...

WHICH WAY!!!

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To say the Nigerian economy is on a free fall is the understatement of the century!!! It's not a plague has descended on my beloved nation and my heart really bleeds from it. As of today, fuel official price is #1000 (Imagine what petrol stations will fix it at?) How about foreign exchange? The currencies are all on a race to be the fastest to meet #2000  ABSOLUTELY NOTHING is affordable now for the common man out there It's so so bad that even the idea of drinking garri to bed is now a luxury to most. In all of these failures by the government, I watched a little boys debate yesterday centred around politics and voting. A good percent of the students who watched the debate were sitted on the floor in an open field. This debate took place in a primary school in Niger state but all the government had to say early this morning was the school and staffs would be dealt with for their students using vulgar language, all because the points of the young lad was a direct pu...

UPBRINGING!

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Upon our arrival abroad, we had to share the company accomodation with a man. He was married, but his family were yet to join him. He was also a new immigrant like us and was also trying to find his footings. As new immigrants, one is always on the look out for ways to cut cost and it's like. Our flatmate however was always always buying cooked food to it Hubby and I tried suggesting he cook his meals but he didn't give any tangible reason why he didn't want to cook. A month after, he finally got some kitchen utensils and we were celebrating with him. How were we to know that this was nothing short of the beginning of a nightmare? First day we cooked, we were out the house, only to return and we began wondering why everywhere smelt funny. We clean the house properly everyday, so we couldn't pinpoint the reason for the funny smell. It went on for awhile, he'd wait for us to go out, then cook. Until one weekend, we were all home. The minute our kids steppe...

INSTRUMENTALISTS!!!

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You see this people called instrumentalists in church, my people, they're another set of principalities. You make mistake and annoy the keyboardist, it's during your ministration on Sunday morning you'd find out you stepped on the lion's tail because the king off key, off beat, off everything you'd be seeing... Today was sister Selina's turn She was in a word fight with the drummer during the Saturday rehearsals. Only for us to get to church this morning drummer was LAAAATTTTEEEEE Knowing fully well she'd be leading the first praise section And then took forever to set his drums, claiming there was one fault or the other We were practically doing 'Aka mara nma' No try these guys oh my dear singers They can make or marr your ministration!!! May God help us!

Some things are expedient!

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'Hi, this abroad, all of us go go am oh. I even heard it from someone sef. You didn't tell me' That's the message that greeted me today from someone who hasn't spoken to me in ages. I saw his salutations and decided to indulge him, only to get the next line above as a response. I jejely left it unread and archived the oga. If it were left to some people, you wouldn't be breathing air today They never knew life would happen good for you If anyone had a chance at success,  If anyone had a chance at graduating and getting a good job If anyone had the chance at a budding career If anyone had the chance at a happy life and home  If anyone had the chance at having kids to their fill Your name didn't make it to their list Hence the shock when they see you in that blessing  They begin to wonder how it ever happened and of all people, TO YOU! Now I understand Psalms saying 'Thou prepareth a table before me, in the presence of my enemies'. Some ble...

EGO ABROAD!

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All thanks to God for his faithfulness, my family and I were opportuned to relocate abroad. How it happened was a big miracle and story for another day. Three months after we're still trying to adjust. From one government registration to another Trying to find a house Trying to get the kids registered in school Trying to fend for ourselves Insurance Find Doctor... The list is endless. Somehow the wind of news started circulating and people who barely spoke to me early are now always in my inbox  How did you do it? I'm planning to relocate as well What should I study? And most of all, it's the so many messages with conversations that culmates into 'please give me money' without recourse to how one is surviving. The general believe is that once you're abroad, your money is endless But it's not true I'm here and I see people doing several jobs, taking calls, running up and down just to get the basics. The beautiful thing about working abroad and...

NEVER AGAIN!

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The very loud kick on our neighbour's door got us scrambling as we wondered what was going on. Next we began hearing the strong commands  Lie down Bring your phones, ATMs and laptops We heard the kicks, we heard as the ransacking began Meanwhile inside the compound we could hear another set beating up our security His cries were past sounds from a living man Ohhhhh Lord, I wept along with him and I also wept for my family in advance as we awaited our turn. What did my parents have to offer robbers? My parents were both clergymen and the church was paying the rent for the house we lived. I prayed to God they'd spare our lives when they got in to find nothing. These men of the night broke into every house and when they got to ours, we could hear the argument 'That' one na pastor house, make una no enter there'. I died and woke up again We came out after they left to find the security almost dead. They used matchet in flogging him all over his body. The com...

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY

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I spent the greater part of my day in the office working and I was amazed to see how foreigners celebrate Valentine. These people are really deliberate about every celebration. Flowers and all sorts of gifts were just exchanging hands here. See them smiling, calling, and all. I came with my kpako African mindset as per everyday is valentine but after seeing all that went down today, I've decided to gift myself a treat. Soany even took the day off While some have made plans for the weekend I truly envied them. The rat race never stops Work will never finish The world won't pause for you So why not make the most of it and pamper yourself every chance you get? Celebrate your family and loved ones as well. There's nothing more to life. In the same vein, to celebrate no mean say make you go do pass yourself oh. So trade gifts for sex, some sell themselves, some do shady stuffs just to feel among an ordinary 24hours deal. Not like that ohhhhhh If you want it, then pla...

Don't fall for it

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Just read a lady's post on always giving, giving and giving and the minute you don't have to give those asking starts raining insults one become disrespectful. I watched a reel from Tyler Perry, where he was interviewed and was speaking on money and giving. He said his first millions was spent sending to family, friends, trying to fix them and all and before he knew it, the money disappeared. The same with his second millions. He had to take a break and spoke to himself, that he needed to self fix and stand on his feet before fixing others. This right here is the truth! It is only a man who is standing that can pull another person up. Some people empty themselves, the minute their salary is entering it's all debit alert until it's finished Some go into debts as well to satisfy family and friends, only to be turned on when you don't have to give. I personally know aan who worked in the ACCOUNTANT GENERAL OFFICE of Nigerian. He was the man running the offi...

DOING TOO MUCH; REALLY?

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The wedding of Vekeejames has been the latest hot topic in Nigeria and My Dear, was she giving it? HOT! HOT!! HOT!!! Countless Pre-wedding pictures and videos Bridal shower The introduction Traditional Court wedding White wedding And the other videos and pictures 'just because' It truly was a beautiful thing to watch I couldn't help but ooohhhhhh and ahhhhhh and wooooooooowwwww The cakes The decorations Every detail was well thought of Things got twisted because she's a bubbly and very outspoken person while her husband seemed to be quiet. Then the hate began With each picture or video that surfaced online, people began to talk Those saying she was doing too much To those mocking her faith and decision To those saying the marriage won't last And the outrightly hateful ones who poured nothing but venom online. This lady has every right to celebrate One of the most successful fashion icon in Nigeria whose story is a complete rags to riches. She didn't ...

SUPER EAGLES!!!

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SUPER EAGLES! SUPER EAGLES!! SUPER EAGLES!!! Super Eagles have done it again We came, we saw and we scatter match. Did you watch it? We came dressed and ready See the stadium filled with orange orange colour Immediately eyes started turning the eagles That's how we started running up and down From one end of the stadium to another Before you know it, our coach collected yellow card oh Father Lord! What is going on here! It's a goalllllllll! Nigeria scored Running continues Next thing we know, it's a goalllllllll 1:1 Eagles started sweating Hey God! It's another goalllllllll 2:1 Ivory coast leading Our enemies called INEC into this match Before I could return from the restroom it was full-time. Ahhhhhhhhh enemies!!! Well, right now, we're trying to resuscitate the eagle. See you later same cup, same station, next year!

AFCON 2024

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Abeg my people make una no vex oh. I still dey on this Super Eagles win of yesterday. I went back today to watch the penalty again and I felt the tension afresh. The only thing I can say is 'Thank God we won oh!' Wetin man for do? Yesterday that match no funny at all. How people wey be football fans dey take manage survive to watch match?  Not to even mention say your club lose the match like ndi Arsenal No kind of prayer wey I no pray From warfare to praising in advance. I hear say one former Honourable even die yesterday when them score Naija one of the penalty. This kind sport is not for the weak oh See how the whole country sef join dey praise the players. Some fans even go goalkeeper papa house go celebrate. Na the same way dey go use drag players when dey lose. The players sef, how they manage the tension take go score goal? If na like this omor, this kind career path no be for me make I just dey support once once. Looking forward to Nigeria winning this AFCON...

I pledge to Nigeria my country!!!

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Where do I begin? I almost wept when our second goal was cancelled I pledged everything I could and as I'm sure other Nigerians were doing as they watched the match. Ahhhhhhhhhh With the million and one things trying to divide us, my work canteen was filled with Nigerians watching the ball and screaming out their lungs We all abandoned work ohhhhhh heyyy! Full time PENALTY I couldn't explain the feeling My heart, chest, brain, every cell in my body was high See different posts from Nigerians Player after player, I was calling God The God that never disappoints  Well, here we are oh And guess what? It was nothing short of a resounding victory!!! No matter the things that divide us, we all stood today as Nigerians to shout in solidarity We should change the national anthem to read 'one nation bound in football'... I'm going to bed tonight singing 'Jesus ehhyyeee' in Nathaniel Bassey's voice.

What truly matters!!!

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The minute you come online, it's 'My man this, My man that'... Seems this is a plague on Nigerian ladies. Worst part is the one thousand and one rules and regulations coming up everyday on how to keep a man. This time around it's cooking that is the war oh. Women are measuring their strength by who wakes up earliest to prepare food for their spouse in this 21st century oh. Who told you your strength as a woman lies in how much you can endure suffering? Or how much discomfort you swallow? How about those spending all their life savings on their looks? Those going to learn hundred different bedmatics style nkor? All of these are superficial Anyone can cook in the world of today, besides some simply contract people to cook and stock their freezers. Is it sex? There are days you don't even remember that part as a couple because of the million and one challenges or goals your chasing So what then really keeps a man? VALUEEEEEE!!!   It's not just container...

It's all earned!

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Trust, loyalty... These are core or foundational ingredients to the survival of any relationship. Recently I've come across  people complaining of their significant other. One was so outstanding because his wife cheated on him. He caught her. Many pleas later, he claimed to have forgiven her and they both went about their lives to the point that people around them were even using their marriage as a model. Only to find that for over 15 years, the husband had been planning on how to leave his wife but first wanted to have all his kids by her, after which he divorced her and relocated. My opinion will always be, when you find there's no more love, trust or loyalty in any relationship, there's no point hanging in there if you can't fight to rebuild it because in the end you become bitter, hurt and also pass it to your partner and you also end up wasting years that you both would've spent loving yourselves or finding love in new places. Our generation today ...

Celebrate you!

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As is customary, I went online today and ahhhhhhhhhh it's just been one story or the other. Good, bad, ugly. There's just something going on. The unending circle called life I decided to take a walk instead, same thing. Everybody is busy, chasing something, going somewhere, all in a hurry Trying to do A, B and C. I ended up taking myself out I'm simply here to tell you to take out time to rest, relax and also, celebrate yourself If you pass on today, the world won't stop. Is it peer pressure, family pressure, work pressure, even societal pressure, they'll all disappear if you cease to exist. Follow the Nigerian cruise that says ' Na who die lose'. Take out a minute and celebrate you!

LISTEN TO THAT PROMPTING!

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I've grew up in some ways to be like my Dad, very logical, thinking everything through, weighing options and opinions to take make a move. I always believed you should have a level head about things, be rational and keep emotions aside. Then life began to happen and as time passed, I'd look back at a decision and say ' But my mind told me oh '  Over and over again it happened until I carefully began to observe it. God in his infinite wisdom, mercy and love, put that prompting in the hearts of men. Christians call it the 'Holyspirit', others have their names for it, but in all, God put it there for a purpose; to guide us, to direct us, to shield us, to lead and protect us. However, many of us aren't listening. We're too loud and busy that even when that little voice speaks to our mind, we don't hear or we totally pay no mind to it until we hit rock bottom. Just like earthly parents would, God's voice is always speaking, to save us from...

Everyone is important!

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Sometimes we take things for granted because it's always there in front of us. If I'm to rephrase that sentence, I'd say, we don't really notice how integral something or someone is until they are absent for a minute. Hubby almost blew my phone up with calls today. Why? THE KIDS! He had to babysit them all week cos I got a job that required me coming home pretty late at night Today seemed to be the height of everything. Unfortunately, I wasn't even available to take his calls. By the time I got home, father and children almost ate me up and all he kept asking was 'How do you do it? How do you manage the kids?' Well the same question applied to him oh Hubby works so so hard. At a point he was working in about four places just to bring home more money. One job, and see me like somebody that was panel beaten. Every role is important Everyone is important: parents, teachers, helps, siblings, friends, neighbours, minders... Do not take anyone for gran...

YOU CAN DO IT!

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Was on a job today and I made some mistakes Guess what? I was beside my Head of Unit Sounds like nothing but it was a costly mistake. After he pointed it out to me I felt deflated and sad cos I had been working hard all day and I knew I was giving my best. Long story short, I talked myself up again. Sometimes you might be working so hard, giving your all but the results you're getting may not measure up to the work you're putting in: DON'T BE DISCOURAGED OH You're your biggest cheerleader, you're your biggest fan. If you need a break, take it If you need to sleep, by all means do Whatever it is, don't allow discouragement stop you. Sometimes, no one might be around to talk you up, you've got to always be rooting strongly for yourself. ALWAYS, COS UOU CAN DO IT!