The Good Life

At the time it was being introduced into the market, I told myself a screen touch phone wasn't for me. I was one of those who firmly held onto Blackberry and phones with keypads until the very end. Today I consider it crazy funny thinking of owning a phone right now that is keypad. I was passing by a church and heard them singing serious prayer songs with loud clapping and speaking in tongues. It came off as a surprise because it wasn't the practice of this church to be praying violently and more, moving from their routine. I remember telling my Mum we wanted our kid through CS. She spent a very good amount of time forbidding it and telling me how strong women in our lineage were forgetting it wasn't a thing of strength but our person decision. Nurses thought I was being manipulated, or better still thought hubby and I were crazy and were suggesting I don't go throught with it. BY the time the second child was coming, Mum had become a great believer in our d...

A smart man learns from experience But a wise man learns from the experience of others. It doesn't necessarily have to happen to you before you know what to do. It mustn't be until you've sank and lost your savings in that project or business before you realize it was a faux; ask questions. You mustn't write a million times and be equally rejected to realize what the business wants or how they operate; ask questions. How about rushing to buy landed properties just to 'pepper them' and now 16 others are claiming ownership here and there with you; Did you ask questions? Fine boy, fine girl, this one must be the perfect match. Eight months later you're playing Celine Dion and crying from heartbreak; you ask questions? For everything you want to do in life, there's someone who has been there and done that. So why not tap into that wealth of experience instead of personally going through the merry go round?  Learning from the experiences of others...

The subject matter of faithfulness has seriously been over flogged and yet, nothing. Whenever it comes to the forefront of the media we cry all over again, cursing, giving opinions and screaming like it's a new topic. It started off as some kinda joke or rumour that Davido got some American pornstar pregnant. We were hoping it wasn't true story until the lady began posting receipts. Well, as we speak, Davido's 6th Baby Mama is online as well, sharing receipts of his entanglement with her.  From receipts shared we deduced that his wife is pregnant as well. All of these pregnant ladies popping up and you're still married?😡🤷🤷 When the issue of faithfulness comes up, most people go on the defensive and begin to give a million and one reason why infidelity is to be assumed as a common practice/way of life. If it were so, then why do people go to crazy trying to defend it. If it were a normal practice, it wouldn't attract so much attention that it becomes a...

The way this news slapped the airwaves and clunged on with a vicious grip was more than baffling. Different media outlets posting, spicing and reposting, with crazy captions to make it eye catching. How much more individuals on their different status and all. We all woke up to the news that Banky has purportedly been cheating on his wife Adesua for years, had two abortions and is now with the third child and has refused to terminate it and has been holding it over Banky. The way so many persons tuned into the story and began giving opinions of all sort! The Wellingtons that have been the internet sensation as well as everyone's 'God when', overnight turned into a subject torn apart with words with so many already speculating it assuredly to be true . It was shocking to see so many people passing negative judgments. Well, as regards the issue itself, I've got nothing to say except that the couple are in the best position to answer to the news making rounds an...

First car we bought, hubby and I were debating which was most important; carry on with building our house and buying a car. I kinda didn't see the need for it given that we could easily access transporters whenever we needed to go out. Well, we ended up getting the car and then I realized what we truly had been missing out on; convenience, saving time and more. Consequently, I always tell hubby that having a car was a necessary liability. It's merit overshadowing it. Many years down the line I still can't believe how we managed when the car wasn't there. We built our first house and were yet to drill our own borehole so, we contracted a tank driver to come supply us water every three weeks. Someone came visiting and said we were being wasteful. Walking a long distance to get water or begging from neighbours would've shown we were caring men right? My question therefore goes thus; Mu st people be seen suffering before we agree they're working hard? Wh...

Today, I was opportuned to do what I love doing again; cooking! I started off cooking for a large number one time when we needed money dearly for a project. Hubby had already come up with over half of the amount and at that stage, needed a little boost. He was in charge of the entertainment for a program. 'I love cooking', I thought to myself, so why not do this cooking job so i can generate my own money and all? And there began my journey into big cooking. My first time cooking for a large number, it was for about 120 persons. Ohhhhhh I was pretty frightened but I had set my mind on doing it and making it happen so, I said my prayers and went online. I began watching YouTube videos, did some reading online and began trying them out. Yes, I took on the project with so much fear but I didn't let that stop me. I faced it , prepared myself mentally and emotionally and guess what? I knocked that cooking off the park. How about the financial and other gains I enjoyed...

As is customary to hubby and I, we were lost in our midnight gossip when we heard and saw our door knob moving. Someone was trying to forcefully gain entrance into our hotel room. Not once, twice or thrice. They kept attempting. In the dead of the night! Of course we called for help but as is typical of the police they were 'no show'. At that point all I could think about was the things that mattered most; the safety of my husband, the welfare of my kids should anything happen to us, and how about my parents, siblings and other loved ones? Ever been faced with situations that got you thinking? Faced with life and death and nothing else made any sense? Not the money in your account, not the number of friends you have, not the people you know, not your connections, not your assets or achievements/accomplishments, not your past or failures, not how expensive you look. All that would matter at that point would be your life, the value of your life and what your absence w...

What's the purpose of getting married? What's the function of a partner? Why did you choose the person you're with? Why did you decide to stay with them? Watched a video clip of a couple online talking about their problems in a church service. The husband said crazy things about the wife and the wife decided to say super more crazy duper things about the husband. In her words 'You brought me here to embarrass me? Ok now I'll embarrass you too'. One of the reason you have a partner is because that person is to have your back 24/7. Disagreements are bound to come up in relationships but what happens when they do? I don't understand couples who have disagreements and decide to wash the linens of their partners to the whole world. So you're vexed at your husband or wife and do or say mean things to the hearing of everyone. What happens when you both reconcile? Do you go back to announce to the whole world that you've made peace? How do you no...

God created man with a beautiful soul and according to the Bible story, when God was done with his creation, he saw that everything was good and this included man. This good nature of man however has been exploited. A curse as well as a blessing. So my friend's Dad was a bank manager back in the day, of course we all know the financial gains that comes with it. They lived in wealth, their house was always filled with people visiting, those who were living with them or those coming for one assistance or the other. This man trained countless of their relatives, sent some abroad, established many in businesses and then one day, he died. That marked the beginning of the end. Everyone deserted them like the speed of light, those who stole from them, relatives who forcefully possessed their properties... Many years later, I remember my friend once crying because he couldn't raise the money for his fee. You see, none of those family members, friends, business associates an...

Alone time is truly not overrated oh. Four hours later after a beautiful siesta, I feel I could conquer the world. No shouts of Mummy Mummy, No fighting No endless screaming No arbitration and all Just peace and quiet. The icing on the cake? I got hubby with me. Hubby decided that we needed a break for ourselves This would be the second for the year . You needed to have seen how yours truly screamed Hallelujah when he informed me of the 1 week getaway he had planned for us. Over six years of saying I do and doing life together but the discovery of taking breaks as a couple has done so much for our bond and oneness of mind. I therefore recommend for any couple as a very good form of therapy/spice to their love life. Do we love our kids? Yes And we can't trade them for anything as they're God's priceless blessings to us. Do we work? Yes But at some point, we'll retire from whatever job we might be having but our love can't be  bought or replaced. Hence we...

There's this lady friend who's in the habit of always taking my things. Sometimes I only really discover after she makes a post on Facebook or WhatsApp with it or I accidentally bump into her using it. One day she came to my house and was asking who got me a shirt on my wardrobe as she liked and wanted to take it, forgetting that she was the one who gifted me that shirt . At some point I had to severe the relationship. Some persons are not deserving to be in one's inner circle. No relationship exists without giving. Reciprocating Love is given to you, it is expected that you return love You're gifted friendship, honesty, faithfulness, financial aid, material gifts...whatever it is, you must learn to give back to anyone around you. How long will you keep collecting while contributing nothing? Why are you finding it difficult to let something go from your hands? Give in the capacity that you can. It may not necessarily be finance, a kind word can make alot of ...

Is it an age thing, Or societal pressure, Or for the gains? Affluence, influence and societal relevance? Many have gone into committed relationships and ultimately some ended in marriage even when they saw all the signs. You knew he had a wandering eyes from day 1 yet you tell yourself  'he'll change once we get married'. He/She has barely given you anything tangible since the inception of your relationship but you have a perfect excuse 'He still doesn't have a job, so I'm giving him out of love and investing in our future' or 'I plan to make her my wife and my woman is not supposed to do anything'. How about the ones who physically abuse their partner? How about the self absorbed and self centered? How about the Mummy's boy/girl? How about the one who always involves the whole village in your issues? How about the one who nags or have anger issues? How about the one who doesn't have common goals, interest and beliefs with you? It...

The negative narrative always travels faster, the negative story is the first to be believed. Sometimes is so adds up that when you speak the truth, people do nothing but just stare at you and nod while you speak. The narrative that men don't care, are self centered in terms of goals, dreams and accomplishment and wouldn't push their spouse to also be that driven, that men are chronic liars and cheat, lots more. These negatives are so popular but they're not true. There are still father' tbat care There are still father that love There are still father's that will give their all to see their kids succeed and prosper. Today, we therefore,thank you for all your sacrifices of love and we pray for more strength. I've been blessed to enjoy a wonderful relationship with my Dad, And then I also got to see the love and humanity from hubby.

It was all over the media how the OPM pastor took them abroad abandoned them after 6 months, leaving them to starve and suffer even when they pleaded severally for him to help them. Eventually he stopped picking their calls or replying to their messages. This was the narrative the Happie boys presented online. They futher went ahead to say he was  using their star to enrich himself and live a life of affluence. The Pastor in a hurting reply, cursed the boys but came back online to say he forgave them after much persuasion. So the Happie boys made a video and shared online to thank their benefactor, the OPM pastor for sending them to Cyprus and then outrightly rejected his offer to continue sponsoring their education if they returned to Nigeria or chose to school in Benin Republic and stated clearly they weren't returning to Nigeria for any reason whatsoever. First, Nigerians were swayed to believe the pastor didn't show care by taking the kids to a foreign land and ...

It's no longer news that Hilda was recognized as the person with the longest cooking time. The confirmation of Hilda as the new title holder was received with so much jubilation and guess what? According to Guinness, the post confirming Hilda 's new position is the highest view they've ever recorded. Isn't that a double win? Well today I'd be talking about the process that led up to the recognition. Hilda decided to go the challenge, began planning until final execution. She had her family, friends and also her fans. 60 hours, 70 hours, 80, 81, 82, 83, 84, 85, 86, 87, 88, 89... She had surpassed the last title holder and everyone was going wild. Guess what? She decided to put in extra hours as was suggested by friends. She took the bull by the horns and went on to do a 100 hour cook-a-thon. After reviewing the challenge, 7 whole hours were deducted from her due to the fact that during one of her breaks she overstayed hence the 7 hour removal. Have you ta...

When Tinubu was declared president of the presidential elections, all I felt was sorrow, sorrow and more sorrow. My choice candidate Peter Obi was clearly rigged out. There was no celebration anywhere except for MC Olowo and his gang. I feared there'd be an outbreak of crisis and bloodshed but thankfully, God didn't let us experience that. On the day of swearing in, most Nigerians still prayed for some miraculous mishap or so that would prevent the swearing in from happening. Well, here we are, few weeks later with our choice candidate in court trying to reclaim his mandate and the unloved one ruling us. Tinubu still isn't my choice but the past few weeks and few decisions he has taken has got me applauding for him. A few of which are -Emefiele's suspension and subsequent arrest  -Signing of student loan bill to give opportunity to the poor to have a chance at education -Data protection bill -Allowing dealers of forex market and commercial banks to sell fore...

' Happy is the man that has his quiver full' didn't apply to my Dad this weekend/public holiday/mid-term break. My kids as well as their cousins decided to spend the long holiday with their grandparents and you can trust what it looked like. Everywhere was looking like a crime scene Food, papers, writing materials and clothes?  You sweep a room and within 15 minutes it's looking like no cleaning instrument has passed that room all day. How about the screaming? That one was raised to power 1000 You ask them outside to get a breather and they turn themselves to sandmen😂😂😂. 'I want to see my grandchildren, I want to see my grandchildren' D-Day and grandparents have taken cover. Little thing they'll claim they're busy with some mysterious activity and next thing they're either shutting their door or leaving the house to an unknown destination. It was all fun the first and second day By the third day we were all walking around with panadol ...

In this life, whatever you do, don't be so quick to judge another, don't be eager to give opinions that would weigh a person down. Do not be that person who's fast in dishing criticisms that are negative in the name of wokeness or saying the truth. I remember having my kids and people laughed at me due to my weight gain. Well, one of them told my sister I wasn't doing things right that was why and went further to suggest a whole lot of things I should do to cut down the weight. Funny part was, I allowed the talks get to me and at some point decided to try out some of the suggestions. I ended up with a coloured teeth and no weight lost🤣. The lady in question got married before I did but no kids. She always had something to say, posting pictures of herself on different vacation or trips, well made up and dressed to perfection.  6 years into my marriage she finally birthed her first child. Well I came across her pictures yesterday on Facebook posted by someone...

It was bed time and the kids were all excited about it. Next thing my son shouted 'Grandma, I want to pray, I want to pray!' My Mum was pleasantly surprised and asked him to pray. The young boy sure delivered! His passion, sincerity and love could be felt in his words His tenses accurate And the prayer, so child-like but genuine and potent. My Mum couldn't stop admiring and commending hubby and I about the kid's performance.  She was so proud of him and wouldn't stop smiling. She went as far as promising him so many goodies which she delivered as promised first thing the next morning. Raising kids is not a day job. One has to be deliberate and intentional about everything concerning them from the food they eat to life principles we want to imbibe in them. It surely won't happen overnight but continuous teaching is the secret. You'd wake up one day to find that they've begun acting out those things you've been teaching. This therefore mean...

I was privileged to attend a beautiful wedding today after a pretty long while. The jollof rice was jollofing of course, DJ killed it Everybody's dressing was 🔥🔥🔥. It was the perfect wedding and I got chills when the couple had their first dance. A slow tune that was making sense The way the couple was just staring at each other, whispering, giggling Ahhhhhh I remembered when I said I do. Marriage in truth is more of a deliberate effort, hardwork by both partners to ensure it works. One the wedding day, one can literally feel the love oozing from the couple What then goes wrong few years down the line? Some don't even survive a year before all the romancing and caring disappears. What efforts have you put in lately to keep the fire of love in your marriage burning bright? Some men in their thoughts don't see any reason why they should keep wooing and spoiling their wives because after all, they've married her. Some women just roll their sleeves and lie do...

Nobody knew anything about her before the cook-a-thon. She was just the regular lady out there doing her thing and praying her hustle pays. 100hrs of cooking and boom, the world was hearing her name HILDA BACI, it became a chant, a reference for different people and several motivational speeches and write-ups. Press conference, interviews, enforcements, deals, access to the top men of the society, on and on the floodgates were opened. Then they began to dig Dug up her history Dug up her family, occupation And her ranchy pictures began to surface. Some began to point fingers almost immediately. The negative talks... Well, she decided to host a cooking show/ some form of conference with an entrance fee of #25,000 and the people just lost it . Finally, those who have been looking for the opportunity to wag their jealous tongues saw the platform to go on a firing spree. Suddenly we're seeing on the internet that some other lady has began 120 hours cooking as well, to break ...

It has always been a common place to hear negative things said about Dads. From 'they're deadbeats' to 'they don't ever spend quality time with the kids or family in general '. How about the true father's out there? Growing up, I remember my elementary days and how my Dad always helped me in getting  my homework . He patiently practiced handwriting with me until my handwriting became beautiful. He w anted going everywhere with me,so I was never starved of his company or attention. How about my husband? From the minute we started dating, to the point where the kids came onboard, hubby has always been hands-on. After Omugwo and my Mum had left, hubby took up the duty of bathing our son, morning and night, was always there to carry him, change his diapers, cuddle him, feed him or pacify him. He was really good at it such that when our second child came, it was only natural seeing him run around our Princess and till date he's still the best with...

You see that thing about true friends? True friends are born not just out of the number of years people have been together. Some people may have been with you but not necessarily there for you until something demands it. Indeed time is a true test of loyalty. Time tests true intentions of people around you  Some might be hanging there because of what they've been gaining and once your source goes down or ceases, they pour ashes on you and take a walk. Others might be there because of what they gain through associating with you. So once you loose influence, they disappear. There also will be those who're probably around because they don't understand why you should have what you have and so, they're just hanging around and if any opportunity ever presents itself, they'd love to block the source of your success or destroy it completely. Everybody has bad days and low times. When these times comes, be careful to watch those around you to see who they really ...

'Come in , come in don't be scared she won't bite'. Dog don pursue you before? That's the same thing Mama Bilkisu told me 'Just pass, she's a very friendly dog'. Next thing I saw myself sitting on the fence and crying for people to help me as the dog was barking ferociously at me. That's how I met one in the park. I was sitting peacefully on my own when I saw this fine Bobo looking like a Greek god. I was still lost in admiration of God's creation when I heard a loud 'whooffff'. You needed to see this human of a dog Oga dog owner was busy telling me to touch me and she'll be calm instead of just telling me he was looking for who to kill that afternoon. There's just something about people who own pets. They automatically believe their pets can do no harm Couldn't hurt a fly or anything if the sort right? They assume their pets would be friendly and as welcoming and playful with everyone as it is with them. Someone g...

Growing up, there were things I considered capable of posing as the greatest challenge of one's life; career choices, spousal choice, place to live, number of kids to have, projects to embark on... How wrong I was! I didn't realize that in life they are other forces that might look so simple but are stronger than us. The strongest force I believe are our kids. Ohhhhh yes, we are the parents, the adults of course, the decision maker however with kids it's a case of 'power jam power'. Have you tried putting kids to bed? Especially toddlers? The minute you say 'bedtime'  it's like the war of Armageddon. You tuck them in to bed only to hear Daddy I want to pee Daddy I want to popo Mummy I want to eat Mummy I want ... At this point, they suddenly remember all the things they'd have wanted, the lost, destroyed  They're always a last minute reason for not sleeping yet 🤣🤣🤣 Trust me it can be so so frustrating but what can we do? Children a...

Just read on social media about a lady being threatened with blackmail. Her and hubby decided to have a child through surrogacy as they are old in years and have been trying without success. Everything went smoothly, surrogate Mum was well treated and settled based on whatever terms they agreed upon, only to turn around and decide to blackmail the parents given that woman in question is a public figure and the family of the couple were unaware of their decision to birth their child through surrogacy. Remember the story of Nigerian actress Empress Njama whose fiance was blackmailing her because he was in possession of her nudes? Remember the story of the Late Sammy Okposi whose Baby Mama decided to blackmail? The pattern is always the same! Evil thrives in secrecy. There are so many people who'd gladly want to feed from your pains, mistakes, weaknesses, disabilities... Some pretend to be friends, only to have information they can use against you. Whatever the reason a pe...

Listen! Not everyone or everything should be worthy of your attention. As we grow in life, we should expect that a million and one things will come at us. Remember the saying, that it's only a tree with good fruits that people throw stones Therefore, a tree with bitter fruits or no fruit at all  will have no stone thrown at it. Why? Nobody is interested in it and it has nothing good to offer  We therefore should know that not everyone can be our friends, Not everyone is worthy to possess the knowledge of deep things happen in us. Not everyone should be invited to know your house, your plans, aspirations and more. Your growth in life should reflect on the quality of people you surround yourself with. If you intend therefore to go far in life, your friends oughtto be purposefully selected. Finally, you see your spouse? That ought to be your number one best friend and cheerleader in everything and as such, should know all of your plans, UNLESS  it's a 'special ki...

Woke up to 12 missed calls.  The panic wasn't here oh, I thought something bad had happened and with my heart in my hands I quickly called back only to hear 'Babe you no dey pick call? I just said I should check on you na, longest time. So you're still using this number? That's nice oh.....' and more talks that indicated no emergency, nothing pressing, just social call. For crying out loud, how can a person be like this? Unless it's an emergency, NEVER EVER call a person more than twice! How about those who'd go visiting a Mum with a new born and decide to stay there talking forever, or those who'd come with their kids kicking and screaming, or kissing and cuddling the newborn. Should we talk about those who visit uninvited or those who come without prior notice and stay for days unend? They're so many social skills one must learn. Learn to be courteous Learn how to treat elders Learn table manners Learn acceptable dress codes for differe...

The laundry basket would always get full to overflow if hubby doesn't sort it out. I've never been a laundry person, I only do it if I absolutely need to so from the inception of our marriage, hubby has been the one doing the laundry. With time, he got us a washing machine and this made doing laundry faster and easier and also got me to begin participating. Years later guess who's the chief laundry man? Yours sincerely! I still do not have that much love for it but I grew into doing it for the kids, hubby and myself and guess what? Hubby would give anything to have me launder his clothes because in his rating, I do it better than drycleaners. I took it serious, Learnt how to not only wash each clothe properly, but also how to starch and the best kind of starch and quantity to use with regards to each outfit and best of all, I'M THE BEST when it comes to ironing if I do say so myself. The thing is, somethings doesn't have to necessarily be straight jacket...