The Good Life

We've heard it recommended severally that couples should take time away from kids and everyone, and just spend time alone. Hubby and I decided to try it out and on our second night we woke up to the sound of someone trying to gain access into our room. We could visibly see the door handle moving up and down severally. We stayed awake for the rest of the night, tried calling the police, who showed up much later in the morning. That marked the end of our stay in the hotel but didn't mark the end of the trauma for me. My period didn't show up until three months after. We relocated abroad and almost a year later, I thought I heard the sound of someone by my door. Hubby was at work, kids were in school, I was home alone trying to take a nap. For that week and the preceding week, I jumped at every sound. If for any reason I stayed up late, it's trouble. Overnight I became a vigilante cos all I could think of was the people trying to gain entrance to our hotel room...

I sat amongst the last rows in the church, managing my pregnant self to join in the Sunday service when I overheard the two ladies whispering behind me 'Wife black, husband black, only God knows what their kids will look like'. A few more whispers and giggling and they continued with church service. To even think that they were church workers was the most disappointing.  Since God isn't man, he blessed hubby and I with the cutest kids ever of both sex. Plot twist, many years down the line, both ladies are married with kids of one sex and I'd leave the physical looks of the kids to your imagination 🤐. Yesterday Mercy Chinwo and hubby Pst Blessed unveiled their babies face and comments, hurtful and hateful began to poor in. Those who mocked them for hiding the baby's face for that long, the ones asserting that the baby looked like another gospel artist and as such the mum was with another man, to those who trolled the baby. Sad part was that 99% of those ...

There are so many features my kids share with their Dad and I, from the physical looks to the behavioural. It's funny and beautiful to watch the kids display sometimes and it's a real joy watching them play and bond with their Dad. I imagine the memories that is created between them and how much of a lifetime it would be in their minds. Watched an tv paternity court case. Husband and wife AA/AS respectively and then the child turned out to always have one crisis or the other. Man sold all he had,plus the emotional trauma of being in the hospital every now and then. One of such visits led to the child being tested and was found to be an SS. Paternity court test proved the man wasn't the biological father of the child. Wife sworn not to have being with any other. Court ordered maternity test and the woman disappeared into thin air till date. Many women do this practice of taking a child of another man and successfully deceive him into believing the child or childr...

We as a nation have the Fundamental Human Rights enshrined in the constitution because we seek to protect everyone without any form of discrimination. Well, yesterday, a politician's son (I choose not to mention) was refused to eat at a branch of KFC because he is disabled. Even when his wife and sibling tried to reason with the manager, they were bluntly told that 'no wheelchairs' were allowed in the eatery. After so much raised voices and words thrown back and forth, they had to leave the eatery. Well, today we heard the government sealed the place up and said it would only be reopened when such conditions were lifted and an apology tendered to the victim. Some people began throwing shades that the matter is only gaining public or government notice because of the person in question. However, imagine for a minute that the said victim was you! Or your child Or your loved one I'm sure the song would be different. No one deserves to be made to feel less of him...

My people, I was taking my daughter to school when I heard sounds of feet behind me and a man making a call signal. I turned to see what was going on, only to find a correct dog right behind me. Hmmmmmm my mouth opened on its own accord, next thing I knew, doors were flying open because the way my screaming pierced the air, ahhhhhhhhhhhh! The man started apologizing profusely, saying the dog just took off the minute he opened his door. And everyone went into their rooms as per, normal occurrence. Since I set foot in the Dublin, I think dogs are dragging numbers with humans. Everywhere you turn, someone has a dog and you need to see how protective they are about it. They smile and tell you 'Don't worry, he/she is friendly and loves to play' Then they pause with their dog and wait for you to rub the dog. It's considered impolite and somewhat rude when you don't. I opened the lift today to find one gigantic dog and the owner staring it me. Semi human and sh...

It was a crazy time on the internet space. From those who were laughing, to those showering praises, to the clearly jealousy ones raining curses and the judgemental ones who has a thing or two to say; VEKEEJAMES didn't cower or bend. She had the wedding of her dreams and went on to have her fashion masterclass with a registration fee of a million naira. In between, she was dropping hot fashion contents to pepper the already pained. Guess what? The dust has settled Her followers have even groooowwwwnnn And most importantly she's happy, breaking grounds with her achievements and living her best life. This is simply how life works When you're doing anything out of the box or the everyday routine, something must pop up to want to deter you Trying to change your job Trying to start a new adventure Trying to start a new line outside what used to be? Then be ready for the noise! This only goes to show that you're doing something worthy of note and most times, you...

A fool, when quiet, will be perceived to be wise. The adage loose tongues sink ships is very correct. We've all heard that VDM(Very Dark Man) has been in police custody since Friday. When this guy first got noticed on Nigerian social media space, it was because he was fighting a beauty company for producing soaps, cream and the likes without government authorization which is the NAFDAC number. He had the backing and support of the Nigerian people. Slowly he began to drift to picking up fights with women online, bashing marriages and more. So this time, with his arrest, instead of people supporting him, it's been people making videos to troll him for talking too much and invariably making fun of him for being arrested. Guide what you say and how you say it. The Hallmark of a wise person is not in the quantity but quality of words that comes out of his mouth. Besides no be everything wey ear hear or eyes see na him mouth dey talk.

It's another video online of a supposed celebrity on bike. Few days ago, it was the video of some BBN celebrity trekking in his school and the person taking the video was shaming him for not having a car. What's with the new trend of going about making videos of people in their low states, or when they're unawares for fun or so that they'd be shamed? I saw another video of two little girls who obviously weren't used to the escalator and we're trying it out. These little girls were almost fell down backwards. People were there taking videos and laughing until a man rushed and held up the girls. Every little thing, camera You're eating, you're bathing, you're making your hair, you're dressing, you're walking on the road, everything and anywhere, camera. No more respect for people or their privacy, even when people are grieving; they still find a way to put fun cameras on their faces. Is this not a mad generation? What do we hope to ...

It's another Saturday and a bride somewhere is squeezing face and fuming on how she'd be cutting friends off and blablabla. Aunty, be calming downnnnnn! It's YOUR wedding day YOU gave out invitations and your friend happily rejoice with you and promise to turn up Then the drama begins YOU choose people ladies for bridal shower YOU choose people to accompany you for your traditional marriage Court marriage nkor? You want them present Then the grand finale; they're either in your bridal train or part of your asoebi. Then YOU sent messages to them ladies to pay 200k for the ASHOEBI. Hhhhhhoooooowwwwwww? In this economy? Anyone who fails to comply, you go about saying 'she doesn't love me, she's not my friend, she was only pretending. I'll cut her off...' First things first, my beloved sister, what's the main goal of inviting your friends to your wedding? Is it not to rejoice with you on your big day? Why then are you turning the focus to...

A woman died last month from goitre. This said woman was once found by a good Samaritan who put up her case on social media. People raised money for her, and a team of foreign doctors offered free surgery for her. She declined and asked that the money raised be given to her. Few months later, she died. Another woman found a beggar with twin kids on the street in another part of the same Abuja after bringing her case to social media, people raised fund for her and she was rented a house, furnished it, bought groceries and everything. Only to find her on the street begging again with the infants. Today, I'm reading of a woman caught doing the same thing with her very young kids. Practically sleeping by the side of the road with wrapper after she had been given a well furnished and stocked house. Some persons don't need help. You see that condition you're trying to bring them out from? They don't need rescuing cos that their farm.  They prey on the goodwill, em...

How do you know you're doing it right? Where, when is the challenges of parenting gonna end? As infants, it's illness, struggles of breastfeeding As toddlers, it's struggles and screaming, leave here, come here, don't touch that... As teenagers, it's a battle of wills. I asked Grandma 'When does parenting get easy?' She had a smile that conveyed years of memories and wisdom and simply said 'It doesn't. Each phase presents its own challenge. Even today, I still worry about your father'. Any true parent out their is honestly doing life with the kids, the best way they know how. Kids don't come with any manual They cry, you're pissed They're quiet, you worry They're sick, you're almost fainting They get well, you complain about how they can't sit still They eat, you say they want to eat the kitchen away They don't eat, you're anxious. Don't go about beating yourself up when they don't eat, when the...

A man is already defeated if he has lost in his treasury the gem called HOPE. Life is not easy, never has been, never would be. Things are growing tougher. Bring a comparison of the economy, situations of things, everything in general, you'd find that the yesterdays were better than today. People are in pains People are struggling People are suffering People are losing their minds  And it looks like there's little or no escaping it. How does one then survive? KEEP HOPE ALIVE: Tomorrow will be better. This singular believe helped my husband and I scale through very difficult times we thought would swallow us up. Whenever the tide gets too high or too tough, tell yourself that it will be better And you'd see your mind, the environment and everything around you aligning to this. NEVER BOW YOUR HEAD IN DEFEAT!!!

Laughter is a big medicine to not just your body but your soul. Laughter is a big attraction to anyone around you. When I met hubby, he said I loved to play so much; few years down the line he says my playfulness is one of the most attractive things he finds in me. How much problems can one solve by thinking except complicating your mind, stressing your body and opening it up to nameless diseases as well as plunging into depression. If you can't find a reason to smile, take a walk, sit outside somewhere and watch people and you'd appreciate the beauty of the gift of life once again. Nobody wants to be around a person who is always grumpy, doesn't speak and when he does it's complains... A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.                    Prov 17:22 That you smile doesn't mean all your worries vanishes but it gives room for you to breath, to clear your mind, to view things in diff...

Working in Nigeria, there was this guy hubby decided to be giving lifts to work cos we attended the same church and they worked in the same place. Our houses were in opposite directions and the road to the office favoured hubby, but he'd drive in the opposite direction for about 30minutes just to pick this guy. Little by little, this guy began to feel entitled to the rides. NEVER for once did he offer to buy fuel, the sweets, chocolates and gums hubby keeps in the car, he'd pack into his bags. At some point he started giving hubby attitude if he picked him up late; and in more than two occasions refused speaking to hubby for picking him up late. Until they got to the office, oga shut himself out with an earpiece. Thankfully at some point, hubby cut him off. Somebody does an act of kindness for you, a simple thank you and an effort to reciprocate matters. Your younger siblings help wash your clothes and you go 'Ehen now' as of right? A friend helps you do ass...

Cameron airpark California, was built in the year 1963 with a total of 124 houses. You won't find any bike or car parked outside instead you'd find an airplane parked in the parking lot of every house. This is because everyone here is a retired pilot. If they have need to go out, they go in their airplane. Can you beat that? 2024 somebody somewhere is angry or shouting vanity upon vanity because his or her friend or family bought new clothes, shoes, car or a house. You shout vanity when you're indirectly condoning poverty or can't afford the finer things in life. That's how some guy came online vexing that Rema bought two expensive cars and his manager Don Jazzy did nothing to stop him when people are hungry all over the country. And so I ask, the man criticizing is yet to show us where he gave his neighbour a drink of water, not to mention a full meal but he knew the world was hungry and money was being wasted when another person bought a car. 😂😂😂 Th...

'I'd like to thank God for helping me. I'm standing here because of the grace of God and then I'd also attribute my success and accomplishments today to My dedication and hardwork. I worked myself to my bones, I never stopped and never quit and you can all see where I am today...'  That was part of Philip's speech on his ministerial appointment party. He never as much as acknowledged those who helped him climb the success ladder or those who fought for him to be where he was. Philip felt he had arrived and began manifesting as much. He believed he didn't need help anymore and began to cut off these people and their support. Trust life; the way he went up, was the same way he was brought down and this time he had no support system because he had stepped on every toe. So many persons rise up and then forget those who were part of their success story. The forget or intentionally cut off  from these persons with the mindset of 'i have arrived ...

The reason elders or persons with experiences are there is to guide those coming along the paths they've walked and that's a great blessing. However, our generation today have chose to harden their necks. You talk and they claim mental health and post on social media or they claim you're trying to control their lives or outrightly look down on the advice and the giver. It's sad as a parent, to watch them fall into the pits one tried to warn them against. Today a guy called me and spoke for hours unend, complaining and regretting about a lady everyone adviced him against I watched a clip two days ago, how a guy who was just initiated into cult was gunned down in broad daylight where his group went to attack just few days to his graduation. He must've heard severally that joining cult groups in school doesn't pay but chose to ignore it. Some persons are lucky to have a chance at redemption Others pay the ultimate price with their lives. Instead of livi...

A tale of two thieves It is disappointing that as a people, Nigeria keeps failing at all the chances she has to emerge and be the true leader she is within the West African space. Whilst this can be said to have been overemphasised,  the case of corruption continues to bite deeper. During plenary,  the Senate president,  Senator Godswill Akpabuyo was accused of padding the budget to the tune of 3trillion Naira.... and after what was considered a fruitful deliberation, the motion was moved for his suspension and whilst majority voted "Nay" the Senate president still pronounced him suspended and declared that the Yes have it. This has become a recurring decimal when the focus should be on developing our nation. with the prolonged Ukraine/Russia war, one expected Nigeria to do better but..... one wonders if the sleeping giant will ever wake

I was pretty late for school run yesterday so when the kids and I got to the traffic stop, the light was red and I was doing serious countdown. I couldn't take it anymore as every minute was a countdown to our lateness so you already can guess, I beat the light while the kids were screaming 'Mummy the light is red, the light is red' I lied and told them the light was bad. Today hubby was doing the school run When they got to the traffic light, the kids began clamouring and pushing their Dad to beat the red light, telling him the light was bad. I had to convince them that the light was now fixed and working perfectly well. The kids see all we do and subconsciously they begin to emulate us. My kids are either trying to eat, walk, talk or do something like their Dad or myself. These kids are like sponge. The kids went to spend some time with their grandparents My Mum once she forgets herself loves to dunk her bread in her tea. My daughter automatically learnt it an...

I grew up in a home where we shared everything. From the biscuit to the noodles and all so it was alien to me when I just got married and hubby gave me a special bottle of fine to drink alone. HOW? Hubby goes out, buys things and I'm wondering why he's spending all that. I learnt hardwork and not slowing down for anything from my Dad Then hubby came and taught me to take care of me. I could give anything to invest and I don't mind loosing it all but to take out a tiny fraction to treat myself felt like a taboo. I have an Aunt whose husband was once a commissioner. As at the time, they had crazy money but my family always looked better dressed than hers for no reason at all. Some persons will slave and save, money would be sitting in the account but they'd never buy simple things like blender, washing machine, electric kettle, how dare you then mention car! Some can't even change their wardrobes! In as much as you're saving, investing, running here an...

Hubby got a call at night that got us to our feet to act swiftly. We weren't mindful of the time, neither did we care what the outcome of things would be. All we knew was that a true friend needed us and we had to stand by him. I remember when one woman ran to my family house crying to my Mum. Her family was at the verge of being evicted. How my parents raised up her rent in the twinkle of an eye was beyond magical. It's wonderful when we are recipients or hear of such beautiful tales. The story however is that behind closed doors, there had been investments in these relationships. Hubby's friend took him in when he had no place to go in a strange land, helped him in his process of finding a job, put himself out there until hubby was able to stand on his feet. The woman in question, has always stood for my Mum in good and bad times without questions. How then could she have turned her back on such a loyal friend? Impossible! You've read it and I'm sure y...

I watched clips from the funeral of Herbert Wigwe and so many thoughts are running through my mind - How much he influenced the lives of those around him such that even the ranks and files were shedding tears - The vaccum his death has created - His last moments. How do you turn around with your wife and son sitted besides you knowing you're all headed to death? - The children left behind, how are they coping with such loss? Father, mother and eldest brother? How about his parents? Heard his father slumped during the funeral. In the end, life is just crazy There's no guarantee And all we can do is speculate. To those who have lost loved ones to the cold hands of death, I can only imagine how tough it must've been. The pain may never go away but their presence forever lives in the love your heart holds and soon the powers of death will fail and we shall meet again.

Sweet memories Memories that brings tears to my eyes Memories that leave me smiling Memories that make me double my pledge to do right by My Sweet Mother. Growing up, I saw Mum go through hell and high waters just for her we her children to be settled, to have a better life, without looking back at any consequence or names she'd be called. Mum took loans Mum sold her costly clothes and jewelries for peanuts Mum did everything to ensure we never went hungry She'd stay up to nurse us back to health  Ohhhhhh Dab paid all the bills but it was Mum that slept on the hospital floor when both of my brothers were admitted for surgery  She stood as our advocate and intermediary before Dad and we the kids She was there to teach us morals and give our bums hot lashes when we bent. Today, I join the world in celebrating all the women out there for all the love and sacrifices they give No words or monetary gift will do but be assured that you're greatly loved and your sacrifi...

As I'm typing this, I've priced Lamborghini and Porsche I've even started drafting what my customized car will look like. How about houses? I'm buying two Islands And if my Governor annoy me, I'd just buy my state. Right now I'm the future Billionaire Mummy with too much money but let's go back to the beginning so you can understand me better. Hubby went for school run yesterday and came back with an important piece of information. Our son's minder asked hubby if our boy used to play ball before. Of course No was the answer. She went ahead to tell hubby that our boy should be encouraged to play ball that he is a 'Natural'!!!! Ahhhhhhh My Dear people, Our boy A natural For football? How much is Ronaldo paid right now? How about Messi? I started searching for how much top footballers are being paid at the moment. Did a little conversion to Naira and as you see me so, I'm a walking Trillionaire oh. I told hubby we need to take things...

I'm a person who's very focused and meticulous about my work so whenever I get into the office, I'm giving my work a 100% of my attention. There's however this thing that bugs me at work. THE CLEANING LADY ON AFTERNOON SHIFT! Any time I notice her coming, it's like a mini nightmare You'd hear her say 'Excuse me, can I clean up your space?' It's a nightmare because 99% of the time I'm so so focused on entries in the system and once my attention is cut, I'd have to restart again. So you see? Today however, due to workload, I had to use someone else's desk The minute I sat down and took a look around, I began wishing the cleaning lady would magically appear. Today, I appreciated her role in the company. The somewhat insignificant role that I even felt was a disturbance became a miracle to me the minute I sighted her today. My Mum would always say, you don't know the importance of anus until you can't go to toilet.😂😂😂 A...

This life is very fickle We think money is everything We think influence is everything We think intelligence is the key  We think with beauty we'd be accepted everywhere We think it's in the things we command So we have A,B and C but we look around and we're just hungry for more so we chase those things we perceive are missing with our lives without consideration to any other thing. We forget that with each passing day, we draw closer to our eternity. A wise man said 'Vanity upon vanity, all is vanity' We forget to truly live We forget to stop and look around us We're too busy running the life race, we sometimes don't even know we're trampling on those we should be lifting. If life consists of waking up chasing money/material things, getting it and then chasing more, what then is the beauty or essence of it? I'd like to be the reason why this life is worth living for some persons I'd like to memories of me to leave a smile on everyone...

Watched online as BBN former housemate Queen got engaged. Then the story behind began to filter and this is one of those cases where God gives a person double for all her pain/troubles. She was with Skitmaker Lord Lamba who got her pregnant. He subsequently never acknowledged the baby publicly or showed any hit of the child in any way. Meanwhile people on the internet had a field day with Queen for getting pregnant especially since she was unmarried and no one was acknowledging the pregnancy. And then we woke up to videos of her engagement. Literally, in a matter of hours, Baby Daddy began posting pictures and videos of of himself with the child, as well as the passport of the child he never acknowledged and subsequently filed for full custody of the child with the claims that his Mum and sister would take better care of the child since Queen the biological mother to his child was getting married. No be madness be that? To think Lamba's family didn't accept Queen! T...

For anyone who's ready, there will always be an opportunity, an open door, an alternative or something to learn. I learnt how to prepare a new meal today. I had always seen it as impossible Spent so much to buy it whenever I craved it. Until now. My kids school demanded it So I knew I had no hiding spot anymore than to make it. Went online Watched a few videos and began to try my hands on it. It was easy peasy and here I am wondering why I never tried it out all this while. Your limitations are only in your mind Once you decide to get up and give things a go, you'd find that there's always a way...a solution to every problem. So don't wait Quit lying there Get up and get going!

I was out with my kids today, having fun, playing in the children park and field I was watching them play and I remember prayers I made  Along the line, life happened and I totally forgot about most of it Today, I'm living out those prayers and  it all dawned on me. This post is an encouragement to someone The summation of your life doesn't consist of the now There's always a better tomorrow That God didn't answer your requests right away doesn't mean he didn't hear you His answer might also be in the silence. One thing is however certain God is not a man and when he chooses to show up, he shows up big and right on time. Never give up on that prayer Never give up on your dreams Never give up on your miracles God always answers.

I dey always hear story say dem dey thief people food for office since I no believe am. I dey wonder how person go get mind go carry another person food and e no fear say dem go catch am or e fit get food poisoning. So even for the abroad, some people dey monitor other people food oh. Na today I confirm am. For this office wey person dey work, wey I think say oyibo people dey mind their business. Company even provide cereals oh and dem dey bring fruits and even some kinda snacks every alternate day. Yet people eyes still dey chuk chuk. Immediately I enter canteen today I no first notice say dem dey look my plate oh As I microwave food finish come sit-down Na then I begin hear 'Madam won't you eat your food? Madam you don't want us to watch you eat? You microwaved it and left it to press phone for so long it will get cold. Madam you're always bringing different delicacies to torment us in this office. You have come again today's My people na so I shock oh...