The Good Life

ONYEKA ONWENU DEAD? I woke up to the shocking news. Just yesterday, she was on this side of the divide, very much alive and was doing what she loved best; singing. How could anyone have known that was gonna be her last performance as she slumped shortly after and died. Oh Onyeka! A woman of class and poise  Graced, beautiful and blessed with an ageless voice. Her songs had something meaningful to say. She sang for love, She sang for the unity of Nigeria She sang for peace Always smiling Full of life and hoped for a better Nigeria No matter how many times death comes knocking, no one can get used to it. So here we are with mixed feelings and tears giving our salute to a wonderful hero who not only made Nigeria proud but was a source of joy in our homes. FAREWELL TO A WORTHY NIGERIAN! WE ARE PROUD OF YOU!

Yesterday, it was government selling a bag of rice for #40,000 and then we saw the places were rice was being distributed freely, even on the highway. The current market price of rice is 80k plus, the government has never bothered about that but in 24 hours, we saw them do crazy things. Where did they keep this rice they're sharing all these while? There's been massive deployment of politicians, influencers, leader and all sorts to try to stop the masses from engaging in the forthcoming protests. Today it was thugs walking the market place and streets threatening people not engage in the protest. How about the people that we've seen protesting against the forthcoming protest? Days ago it was the President's daughter that was issuing a warning to people not to engage in the protest. Meanwhile the President has not bother to say a single word to address the people or the on going economic situation of the country but the government has employed a million and o

Helllllloooooo My Dear, Easy easy Take a deep breath and quit crucifying yourself None of us came into the world holding manual on how we should live out our lives that is why there's room for mistakes. There's no human on planet earth that hasn't made a mistake at something There's no perfect human either So why do you keep recounting that incident? Why won't you let go of the erroneous decision you made in the past? Why have you let that event haunt you over and over so much so that it's hanging over your head like a banner and determining how you e been living your life? Life is full of mystery Learn from your mistake, forgive yourself and avoid a repeat. Sometimes, destiny might be designed that the circumstances that looks like a mistake will become the source of your lifting. Do not bury your head in the sand over an error There's no time to keep throwing yourself a pity party Dust yourself and move on Greater things await you!

Dispute in marriage is something no couple wants to discuss how much more get into. In a way,I think it kinda favours women and my case study from homes with loving relationship. Remember the phrase 'Happy wife, happy life?'🤣🤣🤣 This is very much true cos no man wants to funny dramas women put up. First things first, the men don't even understand the subtle signs we women drop here and there. Then if by some miracle they do, they won't even know how to begin to deal with the situation because typically, we say Leave me when we want to be held Don't talk to me when we're re actually wishing in our heart they won't stop trying to beg, pet and try to talk to us Ok, you can do what you want, when we're inwardly screaming no. So the men have simply found a blanket rule for survival which is, for the sake of peace and to ease stress, 'the wife is always right'. This is quite funny and doesn't make any sense to the logical guy out ther

To whom much is given... Somewhere, somehow, along your life's journey, somebody showed you grace, someone helped you stand Someone was your voice when you couldn't speak Someone stood as your biggest cheerleader Someone held the touch for you Someone gave up their slot for you Someone smuggled you in Someone stuck out their neck for you Someone deprived themselves of something for you Someone stood as your voice of reason or voice of encouragement Someone helped you fight your demons A few years later... Now you're standing and your mantra is ' If I didn't have it easy, no one will' You've become a big stumbling block Instead of showing people the door, you have become the wedge at the door Why should A, B or C have that? Do they know how I suffered while coming up? Since I went through hell and high waters I'll make others experience same, if not worse You have become the gate keeper Everyone must appease you or else. Well, I'm here to

Imagine a five year old kid asking the father to be given a car to drive. No matter how wealthy that father is, he'd never grant such request. This is how God also deals with us. There are things or times we've prayed, prayed and prayed some more but it seems there's no answer to our requests and sometimes we even get angry at God but truth is, we never know what an alternative response will become to us. It's a fundamental truth that no loving father will withhold any good thing from a child he loves. So when we pray and it's all silent, it might even be a reason for Thanksgiving. I've seen people who the car they just bought led to their death A friend of my family who has been praying for the blessing of a child for over 5 years finally got her answer. She delivered a healthy and beautiful boy, by the third day, she slumped and died. That job, that promotion, and other things you're seeking for, even trying to be in good terms with some person

Iyaloja of Edo State? I saw a disturbing clip where the Edo state market leader was complaining that Tinubu"s daughter who is the Iyaloja of Lagos Markets - basically the leader of Lagos markets wants to impose a new leader in Edo state. One would think there is an end to greed, thuggery or the need to be in control. After doing her business in Lagos for as long as her father was the governor and continuing afterwards, just as her father emerged as the president she now wants to wield her powers on all the markets in Nigeria. Beyond the economic sabotage this will be for the country, because she will begin to dictate the process of commodities and as we know, they would be at cut-throat prices so she can have a percentage in all the sales but then there is also proxe Control. What next would it be?  it's not like Lagos markets have been the best or like they do not leave so much to be desired. But then again... what do I even know?

To Protest or not to Protest?  The Nigerian youths have declared a Protest from 1st August and have stated their demands.  But is this the time for Protest?  Let us keep some things in perspective,  there is no Protest which was planned like this that has ever been successful.  In 2012, when the GEJ government made the fatal mistake of removing subsidy on 1st January when people were still in festive mood he ignited a fire that eventually burnt him down, and the Protest was rapid and was a response to the government action.  As recent as 2020, the End SARS Protest was organic, borne out of frustration.  If this Protest had happened immediately the election result was declared, or immediately subsidy was removed, or even when there was scarcity of Naira it would have been a different ball game. But to this writer, there is no remote cause for a Protest which is why the government will do all it can to resist it.  There are clear signs that the Protest has failed already.  Do

Mike Ejeagha, a seasonal Nigerian Igbo song writer and singer has been in the business for years and years. He was known for the stories he told through his songs and we'll, like most old song writers he seemed to have faded into the background for our generation. Recently a young Nigerian skit maker decided to use one of Mike's song to do a dance in a funny skit. It became a hit and the highest viewed of all of the skits he had made and for Mike, it became an announcement to his song(s). Several persons began using the song to make videos of their own dance and it has since become a viral hit with so many popular faces hopping on it. A win win for both skit maker and songwriter. And all of a sudden, people have been trooping to pay homage to the songwriter who is now  we'll striken in age. With the love shown and tears shed every time anyone visits, you can tell Mike never believed he'd become an internet sensation or that his work would be this widely noti

Take it easy  Take it easy I repeat! Woke up today Went through the usual daily routine and everything is going the way you usually go but you're not so super pumped and jumping? Take it easy It's not everyday one wakes up hyper Give yourself some credit for the things you do Things you've achieved Goals you've set and begun crossing off already  Even the superheroes in movies had times they took a break Do what you can No matter how little, it's something  Smile Smile Smile You're alive and well You have the opportunity to make something beautiful out of today Even when you can't see the rainbow, Smile, you're blessed to be alive!

I'm sure we've all lost count on the number of times we've heard abouting limiting how we speak a d rightfully so, for countless reasons. A friend's mum was kidnapped after he took to social media to celebrate her and announce her recent wins. Thankfully, she was released alive after ransom was paid but trust me, the experience was indeed traumatizing. A girl cost her father her job cos she got all to excited about his new job and the accompanying benefits that she took to posting every detail of it online in the name of content. Similarly, many have lost opportunities because they overheard some conversations along the corridors of power and without waiting for confirmation, took to announcing it only for the rug to be pulled under them. A hen doesn't go about parading her eggs before they hatch. She hides the, sits on them, until they hatch and not all eggs hatch. So just imagine if she already number her chicks before they hatched? Silence is really g

Remember the saying     ' A problem shared is half solved' It's a true one. We had newly relocated to a foreign and distant country, and trying to find a bearing. We needed direction to buy stuffs from clothings, food to house stuffs, We needed direction on how and where things were done Offices to visit, Registrations on all. Guess how we got them done?  Hubby and I spoke with people who were there before us and asked questions. This didn't only save us money, it saved us time and helped us not to repeat the many mistakes others had made cos we just gleaned from their experiences. Many people move around today who need directions. Directions in life, career, marriage, in some decision making and how to even overcome some challenges or get projects done. They stay mute and walk around with chips on their shoulder and a frown on their faces. Share! Find a capable hand or mind to talk to. What if the man sitting next to you has a solution to your problem? Or h

It was dinner time again,I served the kids their food in a singular plate and called them to eat.  Then the drama began... I had to keep talking and talking to get them to take few spoons. We kept at the argument and all until hubby walked in and saw the chaos of a dinner. He quietly took the plate and served the kids separately then asked then to eat and just like magic, they dove into their meal as I stood watching amazed. Thing is I grew up in a home where we shared everything save for our inner wears 🤣 In a way, it helped my siblings and I develop strong bonds and I wanted to replicate the same with our two kids so I intentionally want them to eat or wear or do about everything together. However, this incident was an eye opener to me. Yes, as a parent I had my reasons but I began to see that I had long overlooked the individuality of the kids and did a mental retracing of my steps. We as parents should also see these differences in our kids. Sometimes because of the id

As a jolly good fellow, you hail everybody on the street, courteous with everyone at work, never talk ill of people and you're always with a ready smile. Little by little, doors of blessings began to open up for you You bought yourself a little car, got married to that your understanding girlfriend, God blessed you with a child almost immediately. Next you're in a bigger apartment As though the heavens opened, it was from one big deal to another. Then the evil eyes began to look and snoop and they began to raise eyebrows and question things about you. It just seemed as though everyone forgot the smiles you shared. Here you are wondering what you did wrong or what went wrong. It's very simple SUCCESS ATTTRACTS ENVY! If nobody is fighting you, criticizing you, then my people you're either not doing anything right and notable or you're a conformist like everyone else. Get used to the program Every successful person has a voice shouting something negative or

If you were given 1 million dollars, what will you do with it? If you had the opportunity to meet the wealthiest man in the world, what will be your discussion with him? What ideas can you pitch to him? I'm sure we've heard the above questions posed several times but they're very valid. We all want to be in the corridors of power We want to mingle among the elites and brilliant minds We want the doors of wealth to be opened for us. However, most of us are not ready for it. It's not about great doors opening for us; that's the easiest part. The question is being able to sustain that level of success. The Bible told us of Joseph an intelligent mind in the prison Then opportunity came his way and he was brought before the King. His intelligence and ideas didn't just keep him before the King, he became the informal king of Egypt. After gaining access to power, to fame, to all the wealth you dreamt of, how can you sustain it? Your relevance and ability to

Seems like there's a new plague in the air these days in Nigeria. The spirit of judgment and criticism is off the charts! They almost ate Moses Bliss for marrying a Ghanian Dug up everything possible about Sharon Ooja and her hubby Pastors are the all time favourites  Wealthy people hated and insulted for no cause Recently it's been VEKEEJAMES that they've tearing to shreds for living and posting happy videos and pictures of herself and her hubby. Several persons have made videos about her in the name of advice. From those asking her to hide her husband, to those saying she's forcing it or forcing him to be in her videos and using him as a puppet, then there are those who have suggested how the couple should live including those suggesting how she should open a business for her husband; and to think the man in question is not jobless, neither has he voiced any complains to any of these social media advicers and in-laws. A simple comment and it's from one

Hubby took a trip recently and before leaving, he told our son that he was now in charge of the house and as such, responsible for his mother and sister. Our son took this responsibility to heart! He woke us up for prayers Told us when to ear breakfast, play quietly, do one thing or the other(he had his set of rules)🤣 He swept, cleaned the best he could and more. This however wasn't a product of a one day event. Hubby has always been helpful and hands-on around the house If he notices I'm tired, he'd take over anything I'm doing 90% of the time, he did chores without me asking him to. He didn't just do these chores, but the kids watched him do it and he got them involved even if it took a longer time to get it done or it meant him repeating the chore. His mantra was that chores weren't gender dependent. Some people have some funny notions like, men aren't supposed to be in the kitchen, how much more cooking; but they eat right? Men aren't su

A good name is better than... The Holy Bible didn't lie when it said all the money in 5ge world couldn't compare with a good name. You see this thing called integrity? It's a golden coin that is so so scarce. Please quick question; Why do people lie? Why do people pretend to be what they're not? I'm not talking about the 'fake it till you make it' believe. Why are people so cunning and dubious? You see, there's nothing special about joining a band of wagon going nowhere just because you want to be accepted. Everybody is lying,cheating, gossiping or cutting corners in the office. You come in and integrate yourself into the system😄. Even those who gossip want someone they can talk to who will keep their secret Thieves find where they can safely hide their spoil Why do you think these corrupt politicians go abroad to store their stolen loots? Once it comes to character and integrity Dearest, do not compromise oh Someday those people hanging up

A school building with over 200 students inside collapsed this morning in Jos Plateau State.  Four children from one family died, mother saw her children, slumped and died, father hears and dies as well. A whole family wiped out. Another woman just saw her fice6children, dead. What else can you call it if not a black Friday? Online, I've seen so many people crying for the governor's resignation, ok r one emotional comment or the other but think about this. This very incident is the handiwork of someone. A person was contracted to handle the project of that building right? But goes ahead to use substandard materials to save cost, for personal gains and few years down the line, it had cost countless number of people their lives and forever changed the trajectory of many families. Using of substandard materials is no new thing, it's an ill that has been addressed over and over again yet... If the houses are not collapsing, they're burning down or something. If

I'm sure you've heard it severally that life is hard. Yes it is oh, no jokes. Living a life of truth, honesty, straightforwardness is hard because not everyone loved truth; you choose the alternative which is to live deceitfully, you go about looking over your shoulders and wondering if today will be the day you're caught. You choose to watch your weight and exercise to live health, you must give up some things even when you can easily have them; if you decide you're in the 'i can't kill myself' gang, then be ready to battle one health challenge to another, plus or minus death. Corruption is a choice,uprightness is a choice Cheating is a choice, faithfulness is a choice Taking care of yourself is a choice, letting go is also a choice. Everything in this life centres on choices and no side of the coin is smooth. Both choice are hard but the negative choices might seem easy for the time being but there's a bigger price to pay. As for the positi

'The way you dress is the way you'll be addressed ' Literally,, this phrase is right. Call girls always dress themselves up in flashy and eye catching ways. Why? Men are moved by what they see. So, these ladies have tapped into it and go out of their ways with the believe that if they can trap a man's attention, they've gotten him. This works for their choice of occupation, do once you see them, you know them. Sadly, our society today is filled with ladies who dress so scantily. When they're addressed as call girls, this becomes war. They begin to claim you're trampling on their rights. Same goes for guys. Back in the days, by just their dressing, one knew gangsters and the likes. Today, guys have big chains and boots and you're wondering who they are. Now, speaking intellectually, how are you dressed?  Imagine the aura of respect, admiration and command a finely dressed lady or gentleman carry when they walk into a room? It's same way pe

I picked the call and the next thing I heard was the 'Madam na wa for you oh, so you no fit call person?' The call I had just received wasn't a friendly check up but to get something from me. So, there I was now left wondering why I ever took the call in the first place. I also have some friends that the minute we start conversing, next sentence they're saying 'Sorry I haven't been checking up on you '. And I always tell friends, there's no need apologizing, life is happening to everyone of us in different ways. Besides the most important thing is not how often we talk, but the genuine love, care and respect we have for each other. Calls, texts and any form of communication is not a one sided affair. If your friends or family you feel are important to you dont call, what happens to you picking up your phones to call them? It costs nothing unless it has become exploiting. Love, relationship, care, communication is a two way thing. No one perso

You see humans, if you're trying to live your life to please them, trying not offend anyone,  You just might end up walking on eggshells or denying yourself the joy, peace and every good thing you deserve. Funny thing is even if you spend your whole life trying to please people till death, it would still mean nothing. Solution: LIVE YOUR LIFE                 LIVE FOR YOURSELF GOOD OR BAD, PEOPLE WONT STOP TALKING SO WHY NOT TAKE A CHANCE ON YOURSELF, YOUR GOALS, YOUR HAPPINESS! Today was a surprising revelation as I came online to find people bashing IFE of DANG because she said she broke off her proposed marriage two months to the due date because first she realized she didn't love the man, secondly the man in question had character flaws she just couldn't live with; he was a liar and not trustworthy. Guess what people were more concerned about? Who was responsible for the bills surrounding the proposed wedding ceremony? Not her mental health or that of the par

The Bible says that evil communication corrupts good manners. This is a true reality, proven time after time, with do many people's lives as examples. What therefore has light got to do with darkness? I remember my early university days, as a child that was shielded by her parents, I got to school to find strange lifestyles. I decided to try out and mingle with the people around me until one day of the guys called me and said  'Babe, black and white paint no fit mix'. That marked the end of me trying to fit into a strange lifestyle and association. What kind of people have you surrounded yourself with? People who all they talk about is evil government, family problems, personal, relationship or financial problems, or have one complain or the other or weird goals like marrying a rich man and just living large. OR Those who are thirsty for knowledge or skill, who are always forward thinking? The people you surround yourself with, tells us who you are if not presen

The desperation in this generation is something else! A person that is barely getting by, no steady source of income or pretty low pay but has used all their savings on a phone worth millions, a new wig, the latest fashion trend, a car, one flashing thing of some sort or another. This generation is ready to spend anything on a heart's notice to 'look the part' but can't invest on anything or development any single idea to improve themselves. I can't count how many times hubby and I have lost good money to investment ideas. Can't also count the number of times we've made solid deals. Yes, we've lost some, but the wins always have and still supercedes the loss. If you don't take a chance, how will you grow,? Funny thing is, some even go as far as taking loans, just to look rich🤣🤣🤣 and one look at their lives and bank account, nothing is balanced. Don't be a party to the mirage this generation is living in. Plan your life Set goals  W

You see this thing called grace? My people every head carries different shades of it. Some are blessed with a reservoir while others have just a tea cup. This is exactly why they say 'Find what works for you and stick to it'. Guinness Book of Record has been in existence sinceeeeee, with so many wonderful and crazy records broken and still being broken. Hilda Baci of Nigeria took up the cook-a-thon challenge to cook for the longest hours. It went willllllldddddd! And did beat the record and won the title And the name, exposure, recognition both nationally and internationally She became the internet sensation and was said to have given Guinness the highest view with her challenge. Then all hell let loose! EVERYBODY decided the next big thing after jollof rice was to attempt to break a Guinness record most especially, do a cook-a-thon. It was funny to watch at first, then it just became crazy Everyday one would wake to different crazy challenges Several people went on

I found myself at a divide today, one minute I was singing happy birthday and saying congratulations to a dear friend. Cracking jokes and throwing banters. It was beautiful and warm. Few hours later, there I was trying to console and pacify another friend who just lost her Dad. I'm sure you understand what it's like when you're trying to pacify a person who lost a love one,even when you don't have words, you've just gotta say something and most especially if they shared a close bond. It just reminded me that this was life on full display All over the world, A is smiling on this end while B is in pain and anguish on the other end A is in plenty while B would be in abject want and lack A is in poor health, B couldn't have lived any healthier with a spring to his step too. There's just a rollercoaster of things happening so what better way can one live if not to make the most of the time we have. If it's bad one minute, be rest assured good will

I have just read the lyrics of Me & U by Tems and I'm still at a loss as to why and how she came to win the Dr. Bobby Jones Best gospel/Inspirational BET awards.  The most amazing part is, the other nominees are; Shirley Ceaser (All of the glory), Kirk Franklin  had two nominations (1. All things and 2. True Love),  Hallen Bailey (Angel), Cece Winans (Come Jesus Come), Erica Campbell (Do you believe in Love) and finally, Maverick City Music, Naomi Rain and Chandler Moore (God problems).  Now, if you anyone carefully go through both the lyrics and melodies of these other core gospel and worship leaders one cannot help but raise an eyebrow as to the seemingly act of brazen daylight robbery. Then again one cannot help but wonder what the aim of the organisers are.  But if you want to do such a brazen daylight robbery are we supposed to go ahead with you?  I am completely flabbergasted!!!

My younger brother just returned home from his PPA. We are very much happy and we're working on getting him reallocated to another PPA. He was posted to a secondary school and my family was very ok with it, UNTIL HE GOT THERE! To think that they were demanded to stay live in school, accommodations for provision for staff was bad, they were asked to share bunk beds and eat from the school dinning, and the staff building almost a write off.   If the staff accomodations was this bad, I wonder how the students hostel would be like. And the school principal vehemently swore that he wasn't giving any corper rejection letter. You don't want to make the place conducive and you want to force people to stay? I just watched the Niger state Governor pledge 200k each to the present batch of corpers that just finished from camp and another 5billion to build a new structure for the corpers. I watched the video of a man who built a very very beautiful accomodation for corpers p

Good day oh My people we're still here oh, talking about Sharon Ooja It's been from one story to another Those calling her husband a fraudster Others calling him fake And the ones labelling him a serial cheat and narcissist Then there's wedding pictures of him circulating all over with different women. This thing called marriage is no joke You have no partner, you go to God in prayers You finally find one, it's from one story to another. I don't even understand what's going on recently The minute any couple post their pre-wedding pics or they see a big wedding, online detectives will go into work. It's just so hard hearing so much negatives in a marriage that is supposed to give you joy and be one of your highest points. I just wonder how Sharon is holding up in the midst of the noise. I'm thankful for the 'peace' of a man he already blessed me with. I pray God blesses everyone searching out there with good partners May we be them May