The Good Life

You see this thing called 'ADVICE',  Not everybody needs it Not everybody can take it Not every cares about it. They say a wise man doesn't necessarily have to go through a thing to learn, he simply learns from from the experience of others. However, some persons have hardness or rather itching ears; they don't want advice and if peradventure you give it, they'd not take it. They prefer to suffer through things themselves, to gamble through situations and ultimately use their lives as experiment. The resultant end is wasted years, wasted resources, some die, some are lucky and scale through unhurt, some lose valuable friends, connections and opportunities. Some don't value the advice because they have no value for people or for the person giving the advice Others are full of themselves. Before you even finish a sentence they have 16 inspirational quotes on what you want to say . Some honestly have no inclination that they're towing a wrong part o...

Who will pay for this parara? I thought Definitely won't be me cos what in the world of daylight robbery is this? It had been one hell of a crazy week at our work place when Oga Boss decided that to foster office bond, we should all go have lunch together. And honestly the baby girl treatment was long overdue for your Chi-Chi. I was amongst the first to pack up my things and be ready. Everywhere spoke class, the interior design was a beauty,  And the setting? Wow was the word for it. Menu, waiters, ambience, this was the kind of place meant for me. First things first, I calmed myself down with a very chilled glass of freshly squeezed fruit juice, then proceeded to place my order. It was amazing to find local cuisines listed out in their menu. Indeed this place was meant to calm a person down. It was a bliss until my meal arrived and I saw one teaspoon of stew used to draw a map on my dish, two long grasses, some funny looking art staring at me. Was that meant to be my f...

It's called 'betrayal' for a reason, because those who inflict the wound are those whom you trusted completely and gave unfettered access to your life and heart. It can't be betrayal if it's coming from an outsider. It takes a Judas with a kiss to twist the knife. A friend, brother, spouse, acquaintance, business partner or someone you brought up and cleaned up, helped to set up or risked alot for... We actually in our subconscious mind know this but one can never be too prepared and so, once in awhile you hear  'I can't believe he/she could do this to me' ' The most painful part of everything is that I trusted him/her' . When an outsider says something, people might ignore. Now you see why everyone believed the narrative was true when it came from those whom people supposed were your close pals? To advance in life, we must encounter these Judas on the climb. So,this is just another reminder that betrayal would come. However, don'...

Mohbad's death, as negative as it is, became his announcement to the world! Imagine people outside Nigeria recognizing his music, acknowledging his talent anddruming their support in protest for proper investigations into his death. Those who taunted, threatened, bullied and tried to frustrate him while alive are all on the run and have their music and those in relations with them, banned meanwhile Mohbad's songs have been topping chats even surpassing records of old hands in the business that some are even speculating that he might be nominated and might probably win a Grammy. Yes, the example above is sad in the sense that it took the death of MOHBAD for him to get the recognition he sought and deserved. This same scenario is the reality of so many people excluding the part of death. Some have been slaving to be promoted; they promise you it'll come this month, next minute you hear it would have to hold on till another six months. Some have been denied their p...

New term, and my 5 years old son started a new class. He began complaining of his teacher from day1 and well, I just assumed he didn't want  to be in that class as he had a strong bond with his previous class teacher. Today, I woke him and his sister to prepare them for school and the minute my son heard he was going to school, he began to cry. He said his Aunty flogs him on his palm and he's forced to write. The only reason he did6leave that school today was because of my relationship with the proprietor of the school but hubby and I sure rained down the heavens. Not without the standing reminder that any further complain would be met with us withdrawing our kids. From an actively happy student to one who refuses to go to school? Every parent should please listen to their kids! Do well to create an atmosphere where they can freely discuss with you. What do they do in school? How was their day in school? Assess their relationship with fellow students, teachers and g...

Growing up, I'd never let it slide. In my 20's, I had everything to prove. If I hear someone said something about me, I was gonna be coming for and explanation. If I heard it, then there'd be a confrontation, explanation, apology or something. Secondly, I always wanted to explain myself, my thoughts, my points, my opinions. I wanted to convey my feelings, so I talked. Many years down the line, I realized that one didn't always have to talk or be heard, to win. The answer to win lies n application of wisdom to everything. The lady who always wanted to prove a point is now the one advicing others to stay calm. The one who always wanted her voice to be heard is now as still as the waters. I learnt to apply wisdom in answering people when they question anything I do. Learnt to indulge people, instead of going into arguements, listen to them, smile a d nod then you part ways and go do the things you've decided on. A simple 'Yes Sir, yes Ma,  will save you...

My kids and their cousins spent the weekend together and you trust what's like having kids between the ages of 3-5years. Mad Hhhhhhhoooooouuusseee! Crying, screaming, shouting, tantrums, settlements, every kind of means to entertain themselves. I did my best! Ohhhhhhhh I really tried to handle the situation as best as I could. It surely was by God's grace that I didn't loose my sanity,or throttle anyone. Four kids running around the house. I want to eat I want to poo-poo I want water Mummyyyyyyyyy! The grace of God is strong oh! The Lord was my strength and came through for me. I couldn't wait for the kids to go back to their parents. Finally they left and the house went back to silent mode My kids, have been walking around the house like rats drenched in rain Every alternate minute, they'd be asking 'Mummy, where are my cousins?' 'Mummy, are my cousins coming back? We wish for a million things, our eyes always searching for the next thing wi...

So, I wished a friend's husband happy birthday from the status she posted and next thing I got was 'You forgot us now, I saw the handwriting on the wall and decided to let it be'. Of course, I was pissed! What's with people always throwing that you forgot me line? What happened to you? Did you reach out to the supposed friend? Do you know what is/was going on in their lives? Life is not just a one way traffic, it's give and take. Heavens won't fall if you initiate that conversation You won't find yourself in a coma if you make the first call Your value or life achievements won't vanish into thin air if you text Neither will your lifeline become exhausted if you drive down to their house for a visit. If that person is as important to your life as you claim, you will reach out!

We were having a cool discussion when Mum began recounting some mistakes she made growing up. On and on she went and with the usual sentiment of wishing she could go back in time to change things. Had to come in and reminded her of what she has eventually made of herself, how beautiful her life presently is, irrespective of all she had been through in the past. EVERY single one of us is guilty of one mistake or another. There's no perfect man or woman in the world, everyone is simply striving to make the best out of themselves. Therefore, your mistakes in life don't define you. Your mistakes don't decide how high you'd go, how successful you'd turn out, how influencial you'll be, whether we'd turn out for better or worst. What decides our tomorrow is us! What do we do after mistakes occur? Do we learn from them and move on? Do we stay stuck on that spot forever, complaining and dishing out regrets? Do we grow resentful and become worst? Mistakes,...

       ' If nobody talk about you, then you're                  nobody ...'                                           2 FACE. That was 2FACE and here we are Every time you hear something about you, know that you're doing something that's attracting the attention of people. It hurts when you hear people say things about you that are not true. It's very easy for people to spread narratives about a person as they have perceived in their minds. No one goes about talking about the flaws of those they love. For a person to talk about you they either are not close to you and as such, don't truly know you or, they were never your friends to begin with. If people talk about you then it means there's something you're doing.  First of, It's worthy to note that you're not just laying still but moving, active, doing...

We escaped the trailer by whiskers. People were already screaming as it was a busy junction. It was my final year in the university. I was done with my lecture for the day and couldn't wait to get home so I took a bike that would be fast. I was just few metres from my house and quite oblivious to a trailer running with speed charging  towards us. I was only God There were times when I didn't know what/ where my next meal was going to come from, but God still does crazy . Hubby and I have received miracle alert severally. Whatever you might be searching for and completely lost as to home you'd achieve day. With our God, nothing is impossible No matter the craze, God has never stopped coming through for his people. We can all see, God never stops showing up for those who love him. What are you thankful for?

I remember many years back when the Dad to one of my secondary school classmate died. Her family came to take pick her from school for the burial.  By the next term when she was returning to school,Blessing was a shadow of herself. It was so obvious things weren't alright. Her father's family compelled her Mum to spend three months mourning period in the village, by the time she was done and returned to the city, her uncle's had helped themselves to all of her Dad's properties, meaning they were practically homeless. Their only saving grace was that her Dad just got a property and the lawyer was yet to bring the documents to her Dad when he died so her uncles were unaware of it. Right before us we can see the same circle. Entitled vultures roaming the air. While the whole nation has been thrown into mourning and fighting hard for justice over the untimely death and painfully torturous life MOHBAD was subjected to, his family members are busy on social media ...

Walahi this internet of a thing ehhhhhh. Small press wey I say make I press phone na him I dey see 4:57am. For somebody who's to wake up at 5am to start preparing the for the day?   The hullabaloo of school run, the jetting of to work and all the hyper energy and tension not to run late. Who send me press this phone? Just to ease myself oh, now see! I went about my activities for that day red eyed, and helped by the almighty power of the Most High God! Imagine operating on borrowed energy? The social media space is one tunnel that quickly draws you in the minute you as much as try dipping your toes to check! Nobody taught me to always put off my phone whenever it was time to sleep. It might be termed alot of things, but it is called 'good night rest' for many reasons. I remember when we had our baby girl, she was such a cry baby and one of those nights who was on her crying spree, hubby decided to stand in and nurse her back to sleep. He was sleep deprived of co...

I saw rrrreeeeeeddddd! Blood hot red! My God! I can't remember ever being flogged by my parents but on this day, my siblings and I collected oh Why? My parents had given us strict instructions never to eat outside This faithful day, I don't know the spirit that overwhelmed us into eating in our neighbour's house where we went to watch movie. My Darling mother caught us red handed and my people, that was how we received the beating of our lives. There was no room for a repeat performance for us after that encounter. The kids of our generation are said to be GenZ or whatever. I do not by this post advocate for kids to be flogged without reason but there's room for disciplinary measures and this translates to well behaved kids and kids with right principles. There's definitely room for disciplinary measures.  Don't flog kids for mundane things Don't flog kids for breaking plates and the likes. Also know what works for your kids; some learn by words,...

Wahala no dey finish Bills no go stop After you work hard like that horse for animal farm Make you sef try dey chill I ask hubby where e enter today E say na table tennis e go slap Way to decompress of work stress My friend Aisha just call me  'Chi, I just pay children school fees. Body dey pain me, my account no balance again. I dey go chop barbecue fish  with correct yoghurt'. Omor, as e be for we country now, no let's things pressure you for any side oh. Do as your power fit carry, then rest. If na wetin you fit handle, step by step e go arrange. If you no fit, with time everything go clear. Life is for the living, try make you live am.

No matter what happens, don't die! The past few days has had almost every Nigerian sad because of the death of MOHBAD. I never knew the music artist until his death and then news, videos and write-ups began to surface online where he was countless times bullied and assaulted by those who perceived themselves as untouchable. Fingers and evidence online all point to the record label he signed with and after that, he decided to part ways with them seeing that they didn't share in the same belief as regards lifestyle and more. That became the beginning of his woes as friends and allies of his former record label from videos shown are seen bullying him. He made person videos of his claims of assault, he sang about it, spoke about it on interviews but no one took it seriously. Obviously the young man was trying to get attention from all fronts but he can also be seen to be a very gentle man. He drifted into depression but that still didn't stop the bullying. Upon his ...

Once again, social media has alot to say. Another celebrity is dead! He obviously from what I gathered online, was a kind soul with great talent, signed with the wrong label and so much troubles until his demise. I never knew of him or how talented he was until his death. His wife had barely made a post of their baby boy clocking 5 months. She has been in a loving relationship with his for about 10years. It's all been about MOHBAD  since yesterday. His love, his calm personality, his craft and the tough times he was passing through. That was yesterday! Well,today as his relatives stood by his grave side, all they talked about was how they'd share the guys properties and deal with his wife. The culture of maltreating a women who's mourning the loss of her husband without thoughts to how much pain she's in. Their brother wasn't even dead for a complete day, but they've already decided on how to fight his wife and divide his propert9amongst themselves ....

Everyone admires finished products Beautiful endings Great results But don't want to put in the hard work required to gain such status. Burns Boy made a post along this line some some days ago. When you're on the stage with the lights shining on you Everyone awwwwwws and oooohhhhhhhhs Then comes the sleepless nights The financial implications both profits and losses The sacrifices, the sacrifices and even more sacrifices. Funny thing is, the more successful people become, the more sacrifices they put in the maintain the success achieved but the average people on the street just suppose all the successful people do is watch Netflix,wear designer clothes, ride fancy cars and live in big houses. That success you're admiring has a sacrifice backing it up. Are you ready to pay to have it?

I was torn between crying and laughing hysterically when I went to the market today. Hubby and I love bulk buying so as always, it was time to restock the house of a few things. Two before going to the market, I enquired of the price of the things I wanted from my customer. The prices were just baffling. I had to move things around so as to make up for the price I was told, only to get to the market to discover that in the space of one day prices had shot up😭😭😭. Salaries have remained the same  Look at the unnecessary hardship people are going through just because of bad leadership. See how prices of things are skyrocketing everyday and there's no hope I. Sight that this situation will be changing any time soon. What then is the hope of the common man. After the funny judgment that was delivered days back, some persons came online to taunt the masses in celebration of the victory of a bad government. Well, I hope there's a different market for the blind supporter...

Most times we advocate that people don't fight, don't engage in violence but my people, I was taught in school that war is also a form of dispute resolution. Some people test and test you and for the fact that one chooses to stay silent or ignore, they go harder and step further in testing the limit. One even told me 'shebi you be pastor pikin?'. He was consciously doing things that hurt me and still wanted me to keep acting the good girl. They press upon you and once you respond, that's what the whole world will hear, next thing you know is I thought you were a quiet woman I thought you were different Ahhhhhh you should be the bigger person na madam Then top it off with the religious part of I thought you were born again oh. These people consciously choose to push other people's buttons then turn around to cry and feign innocence. It's the highest form of blackmail. Don't fall for it. And if what they're doing will cost you your sanity, ...

Who ever told you that being a Mum means you're a superhero? An omnipresence octopus, neatly packaged on heels with a cute smile plastered on your face.  No nagging No raising your voice No meltdown or breakdown . Just a cute Mama Bear doing everything for everyone. A mother fainted in church during the sermon. There was nothing spiritually wrong with her as people speculated  She was simply put on bed rest for days before she was discharged. Mothers you're not superhuman. If you fall ill or die, those clothes will be washed You see that overzealousness to cook, they'd be eating from Iya Basira before your corpse gets cold. Learn to delegate or share duties or chores at home If you can afford a maid or nanny, get one. If you can't, choose a chore and finish it per time and the house chores again 

The minute I began hearing the Scizors sound, I began stewing in anger. This get together was going to be a big one. New and old friends and you know how it always goes down; whether we like it or not, deep down, everyone is accessing each other without words. I wore the special gown I had set aside for the occasion, all dressed up and ready to roll when I heard kprrrraaaaa! That was the sound of my zip tearing open😭😭😭, Ahhhhhhhh Jesus wept! What would be my fate now? My street is always busy and accessible to all these local craft men so give or take in 5 minutes I'd find a local tailor I thought. An hour later, I was still waiting! How could it be that these tailors who would almost want to fall into my compound every other minute were suddenly nowhere to be found? I gathered myself and found my way to the nearest tailoring shop. The moment I was done fixing my dress and trying it on, here were the local tailors walking up and down as though there were just let out...

Millions of thoughts ran through my mind as I listened to the judgement delivered at the presidential election tribunal. The laws are subject to the interpretation of the judges. The judgement given, most I'd agree to be legally right. There was however, nothing surprising about the judgement delivered. The Nigerian people already anticipated this. The judgement swaying to the favour of Peter Obi would've been the surprise of the century. All one can deduce generally by the judgement given is that the Nigerian politics does not respect your good intentions or how genuine you might be  It always to the person with the highest power, money, and brutal force. How else to you explain moving from an old president who has no WAEC to an older one with a very damning and questionable reputation? Candidates like Peter Obi belong to the future Nigeria. As for now, it is survival of the baddest; the strongest takes it by force.

Today, 6th September, marks a day of a landmark judgement in Nigeria. It was initially slated to hold on 16th September,  2023. Nigerians woke up last week to a disturbing call by the Nigerian Labour Congress for  a two-day warning strike to hold on 5th and 6th of September,  2023. As at that time, many people wondered if there ever was a need for the warning strike.  Then came the disappearance of the president and most of his team under the guise of attending the G-20 summit which actually is billed to commence on 9th September,  2023. Many Nigerians wondered if there ever is a need for the president to travel with an entourage of about 300 politicians. Then over the weekend, a former Supreme Court judge and wife of the former Rivers State governor- Mary Odili made a disturbing speech which appeared to hint towards the contents of the judgement upholding the elections. It appears like the last blow came from Pastor Paul Adefarasin who on Sunday adm...

Truly, not every dog deserves to be fed. Some people are only loyal and humble because they lack the wherewithal to show their true nature. They come singing your praises and virtually grovelling at your feet but the minute they become a little bit empowered, they feel they've arrived and can do without  you who was helping them climb the ladder all the while. Mr Paul, a long time friend of mine had a job he was searching for who'd execute for him. I introduced him to Mr Peter as also a friend or so I thought.   They both came into an agreement and terms were discussed. At the stage of signing the agreement, Mr Paul decided to do it where I'd be present and also in his excitement, as a show of gratitude for linking him up to Mr Peter, he wanted to give me a token. Mr Peter got angry about all Mr Paul wanted doing for me, and wasn't mindful to have the business fall through just because he felt I was undeserving of the gifts of gratitude. Some person are like...

What would you like to have accomplished by the time you clock 30? What's your financial goal for the the next 5/10 years? What age will you love to retire? List of places you'd love to visit? Social/spiritual and health goals? A short pen they say is better than a long memory. Write it down That bucket list,  Those things you hope to achieve. Writing them down is the first step to achieving your goals because for starters, you have a clear cut direction. Secondly you get to see it! The more you see it, the more you're inspired to achieve it. Your mind begins to be programmed into ways to achieve it. Writing your goals and ideas also serves as a reminder. You're constantly put in check. Helps you become accountable, at least to yourself. You may not seem all put together in your first attempt. Your goals might seem funny or minute to you. No matter how little it is, to have a little goal is better than no goal. Take that pen, pull out that notepad. WRITE!

Why the people like to short change others and right after gaining the support and trust of those around them? It's always those you trust that'll run you street. My long time friend wouldn't let me rest, introduced me to a scheme, swore it was legit; I lost my money. Another is a Pastor, introduced me to a self development online class. Class never held after making payments. Now there's this woman in my church, so zealous, always turning up for every activity, and was made the women treasurer. She gained the trust of everyone so no one bother9to look closely at her: monies weren't turning up when the women asked for it, more than thrice. Finally she was to get the pastors something; she got what if term 'rotten gifts' and pocketed the remaining funds. She was found out and that's how she suddenly refused turning up in church again. Why must people cheat others? Why must they? Why extort everyone around in the name of handling a project? Wor...

'Daddy, please forgive us and pray for our daughter, she's dying' they said as they sobbed profusely over the phone. Many years ago, I remember this couple made their intentions of getting married known to my Dad, given he was their pastor. It was all exciting until it got to the genotype discussion. Both  of them were AS as such, Dad didn't even waste any time telling them to discontinue with the marriage. It suddenly looked like my Dad was the devil incarnate, sent to destroy their love. They left the church after saying all manner of ill things and talking about how mighty the God they serve is. They went ahead to we'd in another church, had kids and then the battle began. Three kids and two are SS. In and out of hospital and then one of such days, Dad got that sad call. As the love is shacking you as you both are chatting, hanging out, doing crazy stuffs. Over six months now, you've fallen head over heels, have you bothered yo ask of their blood ...

Why do people derive joy in hearing about the misfortune of others? Why does negativity spread faster? Before it's even done happening the supposed 'bad news' is everywhere. Tongues wagging, neighbours laughing, friends rejoicing, fellow church, mosque or club members gossiping but pretend to show care or concern the minute they see you. Today, we were greeted with the news of the separation of a Nigerian Actor Bolanle Ninalowo from his wife. He was barely done posting when blogs began carrying the news and that's what's been basically everywhere all day as though they had been waiting for this, with videos and pictures of the couple flying everywhere. A Lady told me of the raw and negative comments people threw at her because she was all lovey dovey with her hubby while shopping. I've had my fair share as well. Hubby and I go practically everywhere when we're together. The ones who assume we're newly Weds, to the ones who call hubby stingy w...