The Good Life

Sir/Ma, Do you know that it's not everyone telling you stuffs that need advice? Some come to talk to you just to vent cos they don't have an outlet Some talk because they're looking for solution Some talk cos it's an opportunity to stylishly brag without saying it directly While others use the guise of seeking advice to wash their dirty linens or spill what they know about others. Had a live experience in the office. A lady who's newly employed came to another lady who's been in the company for years to get some work related advice. The more the lady tried to give the advice the more the other one told her of several properties she had where she was coming from, her goals, accomplishments and all. Mind you this wasn't the first person she was meeting in the office for same 'advice,' It didn't take much to know she was looking for a chance to brag to everyone. Before you waste your saliva and resources trying to help. Look at the perso

Life is full of challenges and it seems things are getting more crazy as time goes by. I remember sitting in an electronic shop withy friend years back as she cried out her soul. Her younger sister was a banker, happily married to a 'HANDsome' dude working in the National Assembly. Her elder sister was married as well with twin and was living very good. She couldn't help but wonder why her own case was different? A graduate, beautiful and homely, good character, church worker, focused, past 30yrs but still living with her parents and working in the electronic shop as a sales girl out of frustration; things weren't just adding up for her. I took my time to soeak courage, strength and hope into the core of her being. I always took out time to go stay with her in the shop, crack her up and get her mind off thing. Today, amongst her siblings, she's got one of the best marriage, her husband practically worships the ground she walks on, she's blessed with

My colleagues and I were discussing the story of the girl who bullied another and a particular colleague held vehemently that it was the fault of the parents the girl turned out that way. I tried my best to make her see that her opinion wasn't necessarily the truth. Haven't you seen parents who did their best to enforce the best of training on their kids and yet they turned out crazy? Haven't you see homely and calm parents with notoriously irredeemable kids? This post is not just about parenting, or kids or making excuses. It's a post about giving people the benefit of the doubt. It's so easy to jump into conclusions or pass judgments once negative news about another person comes to light. Somehow it just seems we have all the answers and solutions to the challenge the person is facing or we come up with very intelligent things that should or could've been done. My Dear, life is deeper than we know. Just pray not to find yourself in that helpless po

Whether you like it or not, you definitely must've heard of the comedian, NASBOI who entertains by making very funny skits. Few months back, he released his first single. Nigerians woke up one day to this song. Nobody ever took him for a singer, not to mention writing such danceable song. Now here's where it gets interesting. Nigerians loved and welcomed the song but that in no way made NASBOI rest. He immediately took to promoting the song. He began making funny dance videos of and with top Nigerian celebrities promoting the song and that's how the song spread like wild fire. This week, NASBOI dropped another banging song. And once again, we have a very very danceable song. And he has taken to actors and fellow skit makers promoting the track by dancing to it in videos. And now, it's almost like everywhere you turn, that song is playing! My message today is, SELL YOURSELF!!! Nobody knows or cares what you do but you're the one who will market yourself e

We were all enjoying the weekend at home one day when some people showed up from UNLEVER said they got to know about my baby brother and would love to sign him up as the face for their products. My brother was such a very very beautiful baby.   Back in the days when everywhere and everyone lived a communal life, neighbours would come carry my baby brother and the only time they brought him back was for mum to breastfeed him whenever they perceived he was hungry. He was such a cutie and he never cried or bothered anyone. Well, my parents said they'd get back to them and that's how a neighbour planter the seed to my parents that my brother was probably going to get kidnapped or some sort of crazy thing. Bottom line, my parents should never agree. Hmmmmm that's how my brother missed that life transforming opportunity. I've heard of several instances of where parents prevented their children from lifetime opportunities because of ignorance, fear, anger, pride or

What positive fruits has anger yielded? My colleagues were dissatisfied by something the company did. Some seniors in the company adviced they all write a mail expressing themselves. They chose violence instead. To think that what they were angry about wasn't a right but bonuses given at the company's discretion. They took stuffs from the company Barely worked when they showed up and some went the extra mile of not showing up at all, leading to a great loss for the company. These same people recently applied to the company for one thing or the other, like sponsoring of their visas. If you were the management of the company, what will you do? Anger has leads to nothing but loss, hurt and pain. You never know how far actions taken in anger can go. There isn't even any gratification that comes from acting up. A guy was mad at his supervisor and walked out on him while the supervisor was still talking. He left work and went home. Next thing you know, he was sacked.

Few weeks ago, occassioned by the continous downward spiral of the Naira, the Nigerian government came up with the lofty idea of banning Binance and tagged the app the cause of the depreciation of the Naira, they estimated without any records that some billions of Naira or was it dollars? are passing through the app. They demanded 10 billion as payment and when Binance refused they kidnapped (or was it arrested?) the executives that came to discuss with the government.   But that's not the issue. They went ahead to pillage Nigerian foreign reserves and whatever money they can lay their hands on and started selling to their own BDCs in a bid to fix the price of the Naira. Every right thinking person knows it will fall like a pack of cards over time. Well, they increased interests rates, which means manufacturers will pay more for loans and as a consequence,  they had to increase the prices of their goods. As if that was not enough, they increased import duty. considering

This morning, we were greeted with the viral video of a girl bullying another in an elite school. Another video also surfaced, from same school, this time it was a boy being bullied. Bullying is a terrible thing that parents should ensure  they deliberately train their children against. Not only has it damaged the lives of many persons who were bullied, it has even led to the death of some.  There is no justifiable reason why a person should bully another. Children should be raised in love. The family remains the functional unit of every society and this goes to say that whatever is not corrected within the boundaries of the family will become a societal menace. it is pitiable that such nasty behaviour was found in an elite school.  One would think that sending their children there will protect them from some ills that are prevalent in other regular schools but it appears the rot in the country has gotten so deep that expecting the normal is becoming a tall order. Parents s

I went online to find the crazy attack on Nigerian gospel singer Mercy Chinwo. The barrage of insults, the unkind words and meanness! A podcast just had Mercy's name where the person interviewed said he expected royalties after the success of her albums but his Dad died after being ill but got no aid, no help, no empathy. The guy interviewed came out clearly to state he wasn't referring to Mercy but the manager of the record label he was under yet people refused to believe and kept hurling terrible words. The Nigerian social media is a crazy place that can drive a person straight to depression or even death. How can people be so mean just because you're happy? Like they're lying in wait for any negative news to jump on you, to bring you down, to pull you and watch you fall. Please why can't we see that our social media really needs to be restricted ohhhhhh!!!

What will be will not be oh. Life has taught us so. It's not a Nollywood affair. You see this thing called classism, you may not like it but it sure exists and so many instances goes to show it. A certain lady had her car inspected inside and out by her proposed landlady before the apartment was rented to her. A man went for a friendly chat with a proposed client which went smoothly. They got to the car park, client asks of the man's car and he said he came with a public transport. Client promised to get back to him but hasn't till date. There was a job opening, I referred a girl in church. They call me back later to ask why I referred such a person. She had the brains but forgot her looks in church. A lady said the minute he walked into the interview room, her salary, start date and other bonuses were discussed before she was asked any intellectual question because she had a beautiful smile and was dressed in a red smart gown. A guy saw a very beautiful lady in

When we thought we had seen it all with Emefiele, Nuhu Ribadu came out to announce that Naira was falling as a result of Binance,  a cryptocurrency trading platform.  He claimed that the platform was used as a channel for money laundering.  When some executives were sent to interact with the federal government they did the unthinkable - held them hostage and charged them for money laundering.... only after requesting for a payment of 10 billion for whatever reasons but met a negative answer. In a sane world, this action by the NSA can best be described in rap music as Thug Life. But that's the joke these set-of individuals who should be the best of best of Nigerians have projected Nigeria and Nigerians to be.  The same crypto currency the western worlds are beginning to incorporate in everything? Whilst one of the victims escaped custody, the other one is currently standing trial. if the constitution is followed to the latter, I look forward to the outcome of the case.

Between EFCC and Yahaya Bello Yahaya Bello governed his state for 8 years leaving so much to be desired. The youths expected so much from him considering his age as at when he was sworn in but more so the way he emerged as the governor. Some will say it was providence. The man was given a rare opportunity to prove himself and write his names in the sands of time for Kogi people but he performed below margin. But that is not the problem. Anyone who has been following events with EFCC cases can attest that the only time the antigraft agency can successfully prosecute a case is if either the sitting governor or anyone in the government complies with the agency and furnishes them with sufficient documents for prosecution. otherwise it will be a wild goose chase.  in this case the governor whose behaviour yesterday can be likened to that of a political thug is strongly in support of the looting - of course because he has shown how subservient he is to Bello dlthrew cautions to t

2023 Elections: As a serving governor he and 4 others stated categorically that they will not support their party for the presidential election, then he went ALL the way to ensure the AOC wins his state. What did PDP do? Absolutely nothing..... Zilch 2024 He was present at the PDP inner caucus meeting and his candidate is the national party chairman... What did anyone say?  Nothing. 2027: APC will win elections again. Why? Because opposition is dead... and has been buried in Nigeria. Unless another force emerges. Can Labour Party use 2024 -2026 to prepare for the elections? So far nothing is happening then by 2026 we will again hope for a miracle.  We play too much.                                                 UCHENNA 

Guilty Or NOT GUILTY?? Yesterday,  in reply to a post on Instagram I stated that Cubana Chief priest will plead not guilty and will be granted bail. The case may drag for a year or two and he will be discharged and acquitted.  Today, it played out. No, it's not prophecy. Nigerians who have been lamenting and have been casting aspersions on the government for sending Bob risky to prison are simply ignorant of the law. Those who are even asking if he is the only one abusing the Naira can only be described as being mischievous.... okay, maybe they're just a little bit ignorant. Once you plead GUILTY to a charge, the case is over and the next is sentencing. The law doesn't care how you or anyone feels about it. When Bob Risky went to court and plead guilty he basically sealed his fate to whatever the law states the punishment should be, whether fine or jail time or both at the discretion of the judge. Now, the burden of proof is on the prosecution. EFCC has to estab

If it were left to us, we'd all say that life is unfair and in a way, it truly is. A man slaves for years, putting in his very best to make life meaningful. He suddenly gets a breakthrough and in the peak of it all, he does. A woman trying to conceive for years unend finally gets pregnant. She gives birth in the midst of so much celebration, only to die, leaving the child motherless. How about parents who also die the minute it looks like their children are beginning to make a headway in life, after struggling and toiling to train their kids? It's not death alone, but I'm trying to say that in this life, bad things happen to good people. We can't explain it We can't comprehend it It just doesn't seem right What motivation then is there to be good? But then, good no matter how long it tarries still supercedes bad/evil. Sometimes parents might not enjoy the goods seeds they've sown but their children and the children after will enjoy it It's al

The minute you close your eyes in death, that marks the end for you and yeah, surprise surprise, life  goes on You're jumping from shift to shift, juggling almost four jobs, you say you want to make money, you forget to give yourself rest The alerts come in, you look at your account balance twice a day: maximum satisfaction right?  You can't take a penny to treat yourself right; do health checks, take a vacation, change your wardrobe. Nahhhh you need to save Next minute your phone beeps, they say your ancestor is in the emergency room and you're the last hope. You immediately transfer your savings. The circle begins again. YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOU! This life, everyone is all about their gain. Nobody invests in what won't benefit them directly So you see, take the time to look after yourself 'I can't live without you' , wait until something happens 'You're our only hope' wait until they find out you no longer

While in Nigeria, it seemed my little circumference was all life was about. I couldn't see beyond that sphere. And then we relocated abroad! And I've been wondering why I haven't given myself the chance to see the world! There's something about leaving your comfort zone  There's something about traveling There's just something about trying new things It shifts your mind Broadens your horizon and help you see that there's more to what you know and see. Sometimes these knowledge we have is all in the theory until we begin to live it out in the reality That way we make beautiful decisions. Trust me, going out is not just about physical location per say If you can't afford to go out physically Have you thought of checking out the ideas you have in different ways?

My Uncle's car and bags were ransacked, his phone, money and other valuables were stolen and he was left for death instead of rushing him to the hospital. That was how we lost my mother's younger brother who was involved in an accident. Former CBN Governor, now Emir, couldn't hold back his tears as he recounted at the memorial service, how Herbert Wigwe came through for him at his lowest point, that he was almost exiled; covered him and his family, gave them a place and took over their welfare. I write today about something simple, yet so profound: THE GIFT OF MEN! This is one of the greatest gift anyone can have here. This gift has saved many from untimely death, from prison terms, from shame, from losing it all. It's also not just about having people around you, I'm talking about having true friends around you in your moments of weakness who can stand and fight with and for you, who won't allow you make rash or hasty decisions, those whose words of

I've learnt to guard my tongue and watch my words I've learnt to be stay silent e en when I have so much to say I've learnt to wait, to listen, to be patient before I speak It's not so much in the speaking Wisdom is not necessarily found in the mouth of the first person who speaks. I always had something to say I always wanted to prove points I liked the argument Then I began to see The hurt that can come out from saying words you weren't sure of The hurt of drawing conclusions only to find that they were wrong The words you speak can never be returned back Maturity helps you filter what you say Maturity helps you know know how and when to say them Maturity teaches you that silence is really golden.

As at 9pm of 11th April, 2024, I am still writing this with that tiny Ray of hope that the news of the demise of Jnr Pope would be a prank taken too far. Especially since the name of the movie the crew was producing is called -The other side of life. Could it just be that they are pulling this stint to make the movie sell??? This one-too-many deaths and that of the other three members who have not yet been found still calls to question the level  of literacy in Nigeria amongst the populace and the lack of any form of emergency response. From the fact that the multitude gathered around a person whose  lungs would have been soaked with water yet no single person gave him a CPR. A very dysfunctional society where everyone whipped their phones out to record so as to be the first to post it on their social media. Then again, there's the fact that anyone who demands the barest minimal standards under any form of employment is looked upon as being difficult,  without regards t

Few days ago, Big Brother Naija ex housemate, Phyna, came out to say she hasn't been paid some of the things she won during her season in the show and the show is about to air another season. Trust Nigerians na, they began dragging her for being loud, some said stubborn and razz, others said she was uncouth. Everybody had something to say because of her demands. Even those who shamed her and said she was biting the fingers that fed her; haven given her fame, she should settle for that. Well, well, today, all, except for one company, have come out to revisit their promise and gift to Phyna.  Then the tone of the comments changed. The ones praising her for being outspoken, the ones who claim to be her diehard fans, the ones who are claiming to love her dogged attitude. All because she spoke out. My people at least this right here is a little example of knowing your worth and demanding for it. Some other housemates claimed BBN owes them as well but Phyna is the only one wh

Herbert Wigwe died a little while ago and videos began to surface of his house, party, and stuffs like that. Nigerians began bashing the dead man on how he lived his life in opulence and affluence while people are hungry in the street, calling his money stolen and more. During the service of songs organized for him, several persons came to testify of the wonderful person he was. There was no dry eyes in that hall; from the person speaking, to those listening, rich or poor, everyone there had a story of how he helped them. Yesterday an actress who Funke Akindele had featured a few times in her movie, died. Funke like every normal person out there make a post mourning the late actress. The brother to the late actress however came online to attack Funke's post saying that they reached out to her severally while his sister was alive but she didn't answer them so she shouldn't post about the death. And that was the big story for yesterday. People jumped on it to say

I almost fainted when I realized I was out on a very essential ingredient I needed to make my meal. I couldn't help thinking 'How do I get this stuff now?' Well, hubby always went out with the card we use for our daily expenses so I was very happy to send him a message and ask him to help me get what I need. I was positioning like a very satisfied cat when I got his reply 'The card is home. Walk downstairs to the mall and get the things' HHHHHHHOOOOOOOOWWWWWWWWWW?? Please am I the only one who's very very lazy when it comes to grocery shopping? I find every excuse possible not to. God being so kind, decided to bless me with a husband who doesn't mind. I can even say he enjoys shopping. This has earned us many funny names Some have called my husband stingy for going to the shop, so that his wife won't get any money, Others thought he was single until they met me and you needed to see their shocked faces The ones who know he has a wife have equ

A popular lady was in a mall when a woman with her daughter ran up to gushing and fanning about how she never knew she'd be privileged to meet with her and while the popular lady was still trying to get a grips of everything, the woman said  'I saw you walking into church and I thought you were a masquerade. I even wrote it under your post'. What do you expect? The woman's child was embarrassed and so was the popular lady, who simply walked away saying nothing to the woman. Life is already difficult People wake up everyday with different kinds of struggles Then someone has the opportunity to edify, build or encourage his brother but no, he chooses to find words that will cut him down. Some will laugh and tell you 'Ahhhhhhh, why are you taking it so serious, na cruise na' without knowing how much deep those words would've sunk. A lady was emotionally and verbally abused by her fiance, she had lost every confidence in herself until one day, while w

'Hello, please I need a favour. I'm in a fix and I need a loan of... Thanks. Here's my account details'.   Every opportunity they get, they're shopping. Latest outfits, they have Latest designer, they know Hottest label, they know Latest hairstyles and wigs, they have Latest phone? They just got it. Personal development? Planning towards it Personal value/investment? No funds yet for it Conferences, books, courses and the likes? Ahhhhh they're too expensive for now, besides there's no time for now. There are persons who know the hottest and latest of everything you can name from shoes, clothes, cars, bags, everything except personal development. After spending on looking fly, the next minute they're thinking of who to text the likes of the above message for handouts. The wigs and purses you buy today would become outdated tomorrow but your worth tomorrow from your personal development today, becomes priceless. Investing in your tomorrow, toda

The institution of marriage is what one is willing to make out of it. Few days ago TerryG in an interview said top musicians like himself can't get married because once you're married, you're out of the market as an artist and that will affect your career growth. Today I watched another interview of BLord who married his wife at 21, said he's married for five years now and has 2 kids. He spoke of how marriage has made him into a better and more accountable man and the beautiful achievements he has made so far. It simply goes to show that it is what we choose that happens for us. We say marriages are failing these days but there are a million others winning everyday too and happily. We have artists like KissDaniel, JohnyDrill, Davido, BankyW, Adekunle Gold... All married and very successful. How are you positioning yourself for marriage? What kind of person are your going after? What do you hope to make out of your home? Is your supposed partner sharing the s

Junior was the beloveth of his mother. He could do no wrong in her eyes. She always found a way to make excuses for him whenever he did something wrong. He bullied kids in school or in the neighbourhood, she'd apologize He lifts things, she goes to pay He takes from his siblings, she tells them to endure or forgo it cos he's their brother. She was the apple of his eyes. Why wouldn't he be? After 6 girls, Mama Junior finally had him and it was the greatest breakthrough of her life. She felt finally fulfilled and her life was practically centred around him. Little by little he began to grow Until one day it was the cops knocking on the door for Junior. He had become a terror to the state and was on the wanted list. Nip it in the bud Those little things are not so little Fighting Lying Cheating Stealing You say it's a white lie? Tomorrow it's a grown man with a pen signing off billions on contracts he didn't execute. As parents, do your best to train yo

Help me ask these children of mine why dey won land me for trouble. My daughter's favorite videos now are of her pretending to cry and saying 'mummy is angry with me, mummy beat me'. How? Inside oyibo country? These days I think kids study the environment to know that if they throw tantrum at certain places, their parents would be forced to give in to their wants. That's how we went shopping. Inside the mall, there were so several kinds of games and all for kids. My kids have had fun, hubby had gotten them loads and loads of goodies, only for this kids to start screaming and crying so loud that they wanted to ride electric car and horse. You need to see how big the shopping complex is to understand the level of embarrassment. Hubby was frustrated and it was so visible. As African mother that I am, I gave our shopping bags to hubby, backed the younger child and held the older one and become automatically deaf. That's how we escaped. When they saw their sc

Saw a guy's post of his girl finding money in the pocket of his clothes and returned it. He put her video up and hailed her a good woman, wife material... If this were to be the criteria, then I obviously won't be fit to be a wife material. Doing laundry is one of my worst chores and God being so kind, he blessed me with a man who doesn't mind doing it. However, for the few occasions I managed to do the laundry, any money found in Hubby's pocket, is MINE!  Any money forgotten in his pocket, MINE! Any money without a fixed purpose, MINE! All the change from every purchase, MINE! Hubby just has this thing for leaving money in his clothes 99% unintentionally But anyone who does the laundry and finds the money, it's finders keepers. And trust me, you'd find good money, airtime, funny sweets sometimes. This is exactly why my siblings always fought over who'd do laundry for hubby I had to learn to start pretending to forget as well so they could help w

They try to find every opportunity to bring you down.  The scrutinize every assignment you're given Some go as far as making records of your  conversations just to find something to pin on you. They're quick to find way to misinterpret your word and instigate people again you. Why me? You keep thinking. The answer is very simple; 1. You are the standard! People react differently to good thing and one of those ways is simple hate. They see what they wish to be like or somebody accomplishing what they dream to do and they can't swallow it.  Instead of asking how you did it, their blood boil.  Instead of being an inspiration, they turn you to become a mirror of their inadequacies. Relax and live your life. It's no fault of yours. 2. If they don't emulate you who will? So everybody's calling your name. You're the 'it' person. No problem comes to you unsolved. Management is always singing your praises. Even Joseph's blood brothers got fed