The Good Life

Una don hear the latest? Delegate wey dem give dollars dey run go change am my people na so Delegate go discover say dollars na fake. 😂😂😂 See karma in action! Your country people trust you, come choose you to go represent them and everything wey concern their matter. You reach where them send you, like Judas wey you be, you sell them for coins. Your people and your conscience you don sell, the money wey you come collect turn  out fake; double wahala. See how swift judgment come for you? Others wey don dey chop their own loot think say them don escape? All of us follow dey shout for internet how things dey bad, how we dey suffer. Them come choose people inside us to help us. Na them go gum body use ghana must go collect their own share abandon matter for ground. Sharp sharp Delegates don become hotter than jollof rice, dey buy car up and down, some automatically give themselves title. Small opportunity to make a difference, dey don sell out. So wetin we all dey compla...

Why do people feel entitled to other people's money, properties and the likes? Was having a conversation with a friend today and she mentioned how someone asked her for a loan, to be returned in a few days. The loan was never repayed, no mention of it was ever made, no apology, instead he requested for another loan. By the third loan request, she reminded him of the previous two he hadn't paid. He responded by telling her she was bigger than those sums so why was she requested he repaid her? So a person goes out to toil and sweat, face risks and more, only to  have someone come along and feeling entitled to your sweat and all you laboured for. No, they're not asking how you achieved success so they'd learn, they just want to take what you have and  you become a bad, stingy and selfish person when you turn them down. Nobody owes anyone anything. See something you admire? Work and get yours. Stop hating on people enjoying their labour, you're not their res...

Why do  we feel the need to go tell other people the issues we have with someone instead of going to that person to address such issues? What do we hope to be the end result; just venting or settling the differences? Some other times people don't come talking because they hope for reconciliation. We learnt the hard way. There's this highly placed couple my family was close to. Somehow because of our closeness some persons came telling hubby and i their grievances about them. We in turn went back to the couple to tell them what we were told in a bid to reconcile them. Well, let's just say they weren't receptive of our efforts, good intentions and all. You understand how painful it is to sit back  and watch people you love make mistakes and to hear several persons talk about them in bad light and the people in question justifying their actions? Summary of it all; we became the enemy. Hubby and i didn't give room for gossips so when people told us anything ...

Cooking, cleaning, next minute it's the laundry and then dishes Typing, taking calls, forwarding sms, as well as organising the office calendar One minute you're here, the next you're there, you want to go through all the files, respond to all the mails... Have you stopped to think of delegating responsibilities or asking for help? There's just so much an individual can do without ending up making mistakes or burning out. A task that costs a person days to accomplish could be completed in a matter of hours when a team comes together to get it done That's nice, but i work better alone, i don't need anyone slowing me down. Heard that two good heads are better than 1? No man is an island, we're surrounded by people, be it at our work place or life in general, having others involved gets the job finished well, in good time and with ease. Tap into that door of learning to ask for and to receive help as well. It cuts down the anxiety  and makes the job...

I looked around the room, at the crazy sight of mess the kids had made Of course i was already exhausted after chasing them around all day, not to mention the chores i had done in between. This was therefore enough reasons to just pull  off my wig and scream 'why me?' However the thought of Nancy put me in check. Nancy is a friend i recently made. I had always assumed she had kids probably because of her body size until she mentioned how she was praying and hoping for kids. It struck a strong chord in my heart. Here i was almost screaming because of the mess my kids made, while another was praying for kids who'd create the mess. Today as we mark children's day, i wonder how Nancy must be feeling watching parents and their kids going about having fun today and the posts on social media platforms.  Today i celebrate all mothers in waiting.  Those who have been trying for several years without success, To the IVFs, from those who can, even to those who can'...

Different political parties have successfully conducted their primaries and this period has been revelatory to the kind of financial deals that goes behind closed doors. Through the help of social media we've heard of funny situations surrounding the primaries. A candidate had gone to grease the palms of all the politician(delegates) with the hopes that he'd be voted for as their candidate. Upon the announcement of results, he got only four votes; ohhhhh he fainted! Another candidate lost the primaries and resorted to the use of local hunters and vigilante to recover his money bribes from the politicians he gave to and has so far recovered 100million. Is the government coming in really for the people? Are the candidates truly having the interests of the people as their motivation? The manifestos state beautiful things but their actions speaks otherwise. We cry over the market woman selling votes for pennies just to feed, what then can be said for the those at the to...

We've seen or heard stories of different persons who after training their love interest or helped in building them, financially and otherwise, only to be gilted. The story goes of a business man who trained his fiance from jamb to graduation and upon graduation she ended the relationship and said they weren't compatible. The holy book enjoins us to love our neighbours as we love ourselves! How much love have you shown yourself? Some persons are users who hide under the guise of relationship to exploit their partner. The're so many instances where a guys asks a girl into a relationship and although from day1 she knows she doesn't love this guy, she agrees to the relationship because of what she stands to gain from him. The situation is even worst now with everybody looking for an easy way up. How can you know? Truth is one way or the other these users show their true colours but we choose to ignore, blinded by feelings and refusing to listen to instincts  and...

Our generation of youth want the glamour without the commensurate hardwork. We want the Rolce Royce  We want the blings and diamonds Holidays in the Bahamas The designers But please don't mention hardwork, perseverance, study, self-development by any means. Hubby recently got a new car and someone walked up to him and said 'Boss abeg put me for line na, i get laptop, i dey willing to pay the price'. Of course, he stopped talking to hubby and called him a bad friend when hubby told him there was no secret formula. This person earns way higher than hubby. Our secret as to achieving all we have is that, we set targets and channel every of our resources to that project until we get it done and on completion, people begin to wonder how we achieve such big projects. We see people and want what they have or crave the big boy life without realizing that genuine and lasting wealth only respects principles, it can't be rushed and it's traceable; any other source i...

Me: Madam, please i'd be using the clothe on Sunday. There's a special program in church and that's the uniform Tailor: Ma, don't worry, this your clothe na express i dey sew am oh. I no dey disappoint my customers. By 8pm saturday night, i was yet to receive my clothe  from the tailor after all the crazy assurances and having made payment. The other day it was the guy who repairs  and services our generator. The generator was having some issues so hubby called him. He promised to come home to service the generator in an hour time. Three hours he was still yet to get to our house. Having an important job that he was trying to beat the deadline, hubby began calling the repair guy, over and over and by the fourth hour, he switched off his phone. 80% of those who provide handiwork services have been responsible for countless disappointment and heartbreaking experiences. Caterers, photographers, decorators, makeup artists or Djs? Even after making payments.  I a...

'Mummy are you Grandma?' That was my son speaking the minute he saw me all dressed up. Today happened to be mother's day in my church and as is customary to most Nigerian churches, the uniformed decided upon was white blouse on a certain wrapper. The interesting part was, we had to tie the wrapper! My Mom is a big time lover of native dresses and 80% of the time, she's dressed  up for Sunday services in wrapper and blouse, with the accompanying gele. She recently came visiting and spent a long with us and as usual, wore her favourite dress style all through her stay, so the minute the kids saw me all dolled up, all they saw was that i decided to take up Grandma's style and that's how they chased me round church all through the service shouting 'Grandma, Mummy is Grandma'🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆 Well, i can't fault them cause it really was the first time they'd be seeing me in such fashion. Accompanied with the background jabs from  my kids, was t...

So i had an event i was gonna be playing a major role in Hubby had been away and just returned from a long trip when i told him i needed to go make my hair leaving him to babysit the kids and get my outfit from the tailor as well He took up the responsibilities without so much as a grumble I spent about three hours into the time i initially envisaged the hair would cost me At this point hubby came to be with me in the saloon inspite of how spent he was, until i was done May not sound like a big deal to some, but it's a whole lot of selflessness and patience involved Hubby has always been this caring and patient to a fault Sometimes we're in positions that we can't help,  Sometimes things don't go the way we've planned Other times life just happens  And what better can there ever be than that of those who love us standing by and for us in those tight corners Today, we celebrate those who have made sacrifices in whatever capacity to help make our lives smo...

    Had a rehearsal I had to catch up in church, so I was practically running to get there given that I was several minutes behind schedule. I Drove at the speed of light to pick up the kids from school, then flew with the kids to rehearsals, got there, and thankfully, rehearsals hadn't started. Then it hit me. Baby girl in her haste didn't eat. Totally forgot to eat all day and the hunger came clapping back with a vengeance. Ding dong, I went to the car searching for the kids' lunch box, and thankfully, my son didn't finish his food. With so much joy in my heart, I began devouring the meal. My son came around, saw me eating, and went out to play with his sister. Once in a while he'd check on me and runoff. The minute he saw that I had finished the food, he started crying. I thought it would be best to just ignore him since I felt it was another tantrum and he'd get over it. I Went in for rehearsals but this young man followed me into the church where everyone w...

Jogged Skipped Waist trained Skipped meals Drank different teas and herbs Still didn't loose weight. Ulcer set in Began tilting towards depression A year and several months into having my baby girl and i couldn't bring myself to take a picture of me, not to mention one with my darling baby Until one day hubby snapped. He sat me down and talked with me I had my second baby through CS again just like we wanted but this time things were different as the site got infected. I battled this for months, not to mention my baby didn't like me breast feeding her, she preferred the feeding bottle and so i wasn't lactating well, therefore expressing for her was an issue. This meant she was always hungry, translating into alot of crying. For a mom whose first baby was exclusively breastfed, my mind didn't go towards supplementary feeding and as a result of my baby's constant crying and my inability to feed her properly, i felt like a failure, added to the feeling ...

ONE Nigerian politician charged with a fraud case of #80billion! A singular charge at that, without investigations being conducted in all his dealings and transactions for the period he held office as the Accountant General of the Federation. ASUU has been on strike for months, how much is their demand? Our health sector, nothing to write home about Air transportation services threatened to be shut down again due to price of aviation fuel If an individual were to spend the supposed amount for 7 years it would be an estimated sum of #952 million per month What's the Nigerian population? If a singular man in a singular fraudulent transaction amounts to #80billion, imagine all our politicians and leaders occupying government parastatals, how much they've emassed for themselves. Imagine how much debt we've been plunged into right now as a nation See how much our politicans loot? See how much resources we've been blessed with as a nation lying untapped? What excu...

Proverbs 17:22 A merry heart does good like a medicine: but a broken spirit dries the bones. Studies have shown that patients who are surrounded by their loved ones recover way faster than those who are not The same is reflected in children who grew up in loving homes, who have greater advantage of growing up more rounded and balanced than those who didn't Anyone close to me can testify how i do play alot. One time i asked hubby how he coped with so so playful nature and he responded by saying 'Babe, i've met too many serious people. Your playfulness and open nature is one of the countless reasons i love you' Love and happiness are strong magnetic forces that are difficult to resist No one who finds a home full of laughter and love will choose another devoid it That cute smile might be the key to you winning that project, that contract, that Boss over, that partner.... Love is like sunshine, no plant grows well outside it Make wearing a smile wherever you go...

I was barely functional. I was breathing, walking, sleeping and waking to the dance steps Aunty taught us. One couldn't be too prepared right? Besides Laide made fun of me last year because i missed a step and Aunty removed me. She said i was never going to make it into the choreography group. Well, i didn't just make it in, i was chosen amongst the top dancers and placed in the front row. I had a point to prove so i rehearsed at every chance i got to avoid giving Laide any opportunity to fault and taunt me.  That's how pepper body wanted to kill her, she'd be pushing me up  and down during rehearsal to get me to miss the steps but kilowork  D-day, armed with my white stockings and handgloves i scattered the dance floor, danced like my life depended on it. It was all screams, loud cheers,daddies and mummies spraying money and that's how we landed a full sack of #50 notes. Guess whhhhaaaattttt! Aunty gave us #50 each, said i was a lucky charm and from tha...

Screams of 'My Daddy, my Daddy filled the air' All eyes were upon us as i tried to get my daughter to stop crying but it seemed the more i tried pacifying her the harder  and louder she screamed She kept at it until her Dad showed up from packing the car Some days ago, hubby and i went for school run. On our way back my daughter kept thrusting everything to her Dad irrespective of the fact that he was driving 'Daddy ppen sweet' , 'Daddy di me biscuit'... Her voice rents the air at night, i run to pacify her but she's having non of it. Hubby shows up to their room, carries her and there's instant peace. Same goes with feeding her; it's Daddy or she stays hungry It wasn't therefore a new sight today as we walked into church today, her elder brother held to my hand and was almost asking me to carry him but the Queen mother would have none of it. She walked majestically ahead of us  and wouldn't even look back until her she heard her ...

Experiences and memories make me laugh when i hear anyone say Islam is a religion of peace. I remember having lunch with my girlfriends in the University and in the course of our discussion one of us said her Dad had warned her against being friends with Christians because whenever crisis(killings) began, your first kill is that Christian friend of yours. The lady in question if described would be one of the nicest souls ever. Almost always pays for our lunch, giving us one gift or the other, always calls, kind... The same can be said of the average Northern Muslim but the minute their religious killings begin, you're worthy of nprhing but death in their books Having schooled in the North, I've had my fair share of sleepless nights, sleeping in bushes, hiding in crazyplaces for fear of being killed, have lost loved ones, some whose bodies were never found till date, have had to escape back to my parents with just the clothes on my bag  and next to nothing in my hand...

Relationship they say is a powerful currency Even the Bible says there's a friend that sticks closer than a brother So many persons just by one relationship have had their lives transformed 360°  So many equally have met destruction due to relationship Some turned out to be enemies in disguise, hence the phrase 'if men were God' Few days ago i called up a long time friend to stand as referee for me essentially because of where he worked. Him serving as my referee would be weighty i believed. When he discovered what i needed it for and how beneficial it was for me(it would virtually transform the lives of my family  and i), for days, he started making up excuses why he was yet to fill the reference forms until he eventually ghosted me and the time to fill the form elapsed Have i ever had a quarrel with this friend? No Did i have any inclination he'd behave this way? NO! He was even comgratulating me in advance on the success of what i was chasing Well, at the...

'Is it not just ordinary forgiveness? Simple forgiveness is what you're finding difficult to give? You must have a bad and hard heart' somebody mighty say but there's absolutely nothing simple or ordinary about forgiveness It's easy to demand it or ask someone to give it when we've not walked in the shoes of the receiver of the hurt and pain We've heard countless times that unforgiveness does more harm to the one who refuses to give it than the recipient We've also heard of so many wonderful things that comes in line with forgiveness However have you been in a position or had experiences from persons that hurt you so bad? Well, the speculations, advice and explanations about unforgiveness are all true and so true it also is that forgiveness doesn't easily come by. The feelings pf pain, betrayal, broken trust and alot more cloud one's judgment. Yet nothing could be more true than the fact that the greatest beneficiary with regards to f...

'It's the devil's handwork' or better still ' 'The devil pushed me to do it' is the common phrase used by people when caught in a crime They steal, kill, rape, commit fraud, do drugs, cheat, cut corners..... all premeditated acts, but blame it on the devil whenever they're caught Sometimes the level of ingenuity people put into the crimes they commit can be so mind blowing The time spent to put bits and pieces in place or time spent perfecting their evil acts, same time that could've been invested in positive ventures yet cry 'devil' when caught You wonder at how quick the young ones are in learning to do bad but give excuses for good Ohhhhh, it's because they lack guidance! One might say So how come their minds only think up evil? How come the mind that was used to think bad cannot be chosen to be used to think up good? Every action is a product of a conscious decision whether good or bad Choose today, to channel that energy ...

Be kind! Not everyone has it rosy Not everyone wears their problems on their faces You never know what battle the person next to you is fighting Some weeks ago a friend called me for a loan Ohhhhhhhh, bad timing! Told her i didn't have the said amount but will send her something Hubby was out of town, i looked around the house and saw we could manage somehow so i sent the upkeep money we had left and hoped no eventuality would come up Hmmmmmm i got a backlash instead of a thank you The money i sent wasn't up to half of what she was asking but if only she knew i sent her all the upkeep money hubby gave us and was practically left with nothing People do kind deeds not necessarily because they have in excess or because they're bereft of ideas on how to spend what they have At the base of every help is love and sacrifice. The sacrifice of making the choice to render help over another alternative If we are privileged to be recipients of people's help, let's n...

My kids have an uncanny attachment to their Dad Wherever you find him you undoubtedly would find the kids if you looked Why hang with Mum once Dad is home? The minute they see his car drive in, all road leads to Daddy and like sieames twins, they follow him around the house They also are quite a creative lot when it comes to mischief So as punishment most times, i deny or threaten to deny them something they love  by saying 'No lollipop or chocolate for you! This gets them into shape Recently my son started adopting the same punitive measure for me Yesterday he was being all naughty so the minute i heard his sister crying, i ran to where they were playing and spanked him before i got to know he did nothing to her Amidst tears my son blurted  'Mummy, no Daddy for you, No Daddy for you' Ahhhhhhhh, i quickly started petting  and begging oh If i'm denied of their Daddy who will love me?😅😅😄😄😄

No no no no Today, you're permitted to do nothing but pamper yourself See how far you've come this year? Many are dead, depressed, discouraged or totally quit Yes, you're not moving with the progression you planned but you're moving right? If it were easy to be consistent or successful then it wouldn't be a thing to celebrate when people achieve it You, yes you! I'm proud of you! Pat yourself at the back Give yourself that treat cos you really deserve it It surely will eventually all add besides every good thing that stands the test of time doesn't just spring up overnight Be proud of the person you're becoming and the things you're achieving because it takes strength, discipline, focus and courage to stay true to a cause It's all going to pay off sooner than you think

Our leaders have been plunging us deeper and deeper into more deplorable states The system has been through too many turns that right now the country is on a free fall Education shut down Train services, shut down Yesterday, AON announced the indefinite shut down of air travel services due to high level of aviation fuel Roads unsafe and barely motorable Everything seems to be on a standstill or on a slope to utter collapse but one thing is on an all time high, every politician hustling to raise money to pick up nomination form No regards to the lives lost to banditry, armed robbery, rituals, kidnapping, fraud Or the incessant increase in price of goods and services What matters most right now is who will beat who in the forth coming elections Saw a video of a female aspirant who took up the form and threw a party afterwards Of course, a form of 100 million is worth dancing for A.P.C has raked in over #1.630bn from presidential aspirants The election is all that matters. The...

It began little by little  A passing comment here, a statement there Another sarcastic comment And bit by bit my confidence began to wear down He talked me so down I began to doubt and second guess myself My ever cheerful and bubbling personality began to disappear 'Why did you do it this way and not that way? You mustn't give an opinion in every meeting? Why are you wearing makeup?(He eventually married a lady who practically lived on makeup) You're too western for my liking(but you met me that way)'... I began to withdraw into a shell, couldn't talk to friends And gradually, became a shadow of myself Whenever we hear domestic abuse, our first thoughts go to physical abuse How about emotional abuse? Some partners are so manipulative And their words? Overtime, you forget who you really are It's as bad as the physical abuse if not even worse Soon enough, you'd begin to think you've got a problem Been around such a partner or know anyone in tha...

  The silhouette challenge was on. I had watched several that I found amazing Hubby traveled as usual and was due to return that day so I thought 'why not silhouette my bobo' I went the extra mile of buying new lingerie after rehearsing my moves So when I heard pimmmmpimmmm, baby girl was all scented, dressed and ready My heart was going kikum kikum tonight you shall collect wotorwotor chai! My Mr Handsome walked into a warm welcome Everything we did, I was just dropping hint Bending, squatting, slip ups with sexy pose Only for hubby to ask in the middle of my acrobatic moves 'Baby ain't you cold?' Heeeyyyyy God Most High! So all these my Beyonce moves were for nothing? This Igbo man! It's not him I blame, it's me that decided that wearing g-string and some silk would do it. Have you ever tried giving your partner 'the signal' and it was lost on them?

Our generation has been blessed with a little wonder and thanks to those who founded it, our lives are so much better I love cooking but there was a meal i didn't know how to make. Hubby would always buy the ingredients but I'd tweak it inti something else. He'd make comments in.passing, asking for that meal until he asked me flat out 'Babe when will you make fried rice?' I knew there was no more hiding and disguising  Called a friend to teach me but for one reason or another she never was available One day our little wonder came to mind like a light bulb tadaaaaa 'THE INTERNET'! I quickly went to YouTube and downloaded several videos Next day i made my first fried rice It was so delicious, hubby didn't believe it was my first time The internet is a key to a whole lot of opportunities We are just one click away from that information, from learning something new, from self improvement, from a world of discoveries There are several free online ...

Saw a video trending online of a groom who stormed out of his wedding reception because of the denominations of currency sprayed at him and his bride You're on the dance floor with your soulmate but your eyes is counting money like ATM or monitoring the people sharing food because you're thinking of how to balance vendors For many reasons i find this quite funny that in this age and time a person would choose to self inflict himself with unnecessary expenses either with the aim of impressing or with the hope of recouping the money spent hopefully from wedding guests 'You won't understand' somebody might say but i most certainly do. Thankfully i've written about hubby and i getting married sometimes back and how we handled the expenses. We made a budget, compared it with what we had (which was nothing by the way) and we decided we can't kill ourselves or begin our marriage by plunging into debt so we said no to the things we couldn't afford an...

'You may kiss the bride' The minute his lips met mine i reinforced my vow to make the sparks in our marriage to never cease Gleaning from the wisdom and experiences of other wives, i went through the mental checklist again. Here's just two out of my long list -Always look inviting even when you're home Was i ready for this? Very ready oh. I had bum shorts, crop tops, sexy lingeries.... slaying all the way Two kids after and i just want to throw on something practical that would allow me keep up with their energy. Who sexy short epp? -Eating with hubby Ohhhhhhh how I'd wait for my Darling to come home so we'd eat together Then the added drama of how i serve the meal Proper wife material duties on point One of those beautiful days of waiting, hubby was running late hmmmmm i kept the hope alive and just like that i saw my spirit ascending, i was pretty sure the innocent spirit didn't want to die for nothing It didn't take a genius to realize tha...

Time is a sure test of everything. Time is a filter through which we come to the consciousness of things that are of utmost importance or value Remember the days of Hummer Jeep? So many songs were sang around it How about the BlackBerry days? Bold 1, Bold... Nollywood even debuted a movie to honour it The days of Infinity Jeep, End of Discussion, Murano? Ohhhh ok, let's go back a little. Remember Beetle? The days of Black and white TV box? I remember the merciless beating my siblings and i received for sneaking out to go watch TV through our neighbour's window. Now, it's almost practically impossible not to find TV everywhere you turn. Not just TV, smart ones, even beyond that, everything can be gotten in a smartphone now The point is, so many people did alot of crazy things to get these stuffs Some spent their life savings As anyone in possession of the aforementioned back then was seen as a wealthy person Many years after, all these things are nothing but thra...